So lets discuss being submissive. I have found in all my years of being the one in charge that most men are truly submissive by nature. They have spent most if not all of their lives feeling the desire to serve and be submissive.
Being submissive is in your DNA
I honestly believe that anyone who is submissive was born with this way and has been a part of you since the start. I do however believe there are varying degrees of being submissive. For instance some who are submissive are only submissive sexually, yet in the work place and such they are very alpha or at the very least regular. Some feel submissive to everyone and some just to the opposite sex.
Nurturing your submissive side
I do think as well that even though you were created this way by nature that it takes some nurturing to bring it out of you. Perhaps it was a woman/man in your life that opened your submissive side for you to explore. Some of you just naturally took the role and found it to be YOUR happy place and where you felt you belong. Some of you needed a woman such as myself to help bring out your deep submissive side and help you explore it. No matter what the case is on how you came to accept your submissive side I am just happy you have.
Explore it but be safe
Just because you are submissive by nature does not mean you should be taken advantage of. Explore your submissive side but only in a safe sane way with a trusting partner. Being submissive does NOT mean you should be abused. In fact I cherish my submissive men and want to help them grow in all things not just their submission to me.
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Great post… so I agree I was born submissive. But, it is a bit of a contradiction that at work and in vanilla company I don’t openly manifest it…. often the opposite is required. Still, I know if I could I would be submissive 24/7…. being in service to Superiors is not only my true place… but my happy place….. Thank you for nurturing and developing my sub side…. you are a true Goddess.
I agree that probably most men who are submissive in private are, as you say, either alpha or “regular” in the real world. I know I’ve seen interviews with dominatrixes who say that many of their clients are high-powered men who in their everyday lives supervise people and making dozens of decisions daily and just generally “in control,” so they like to give up control as a way to relax and escape the “real world.”
Excellent post and take on submissiveness. In my work world, I’m a leader. I’m looked to for guidance, direction, etc. But at the same time I can be submissive. My job is to serve that role for others. Sure there are times where I give direction, expect results, and even have to pass judgement. But, again, I do that to serve, my boss and the organization.
In my personal life, I like to serve by instructing, coaching, and doing. Again, as a coach, I lead, I push, I direct. But it is serving the needs of the team.
In my sexual life, it is similar. How can I serve?
Mistress, it’s a very interesting topic: I’m not submissive all the time, only when I feel some natural authority or power on the other part. There’s not a rule to explain when it happens. I tend to feel inferior to hot women and alpha males but only some of them makes me feel very intimidated and behave as submissive in real life.
Sexually, on the other hand, as a tiny dick cuckold, I am always submissive to provide the best for my wife and the males who pleases her.
I’ve always been this way. Just seeing how much power and control women have. In college 3 women had me sit between them as they sprayed perfume and gave me lipstick kisses on my cheeks on way home from trip, I was in van and couldn’t resist/say no or get away. It turned me on as I tried to hide my tent but couldn’t:( now with my masseuse putting make up/lipstick on me along with seeing me dressed up as a girl with bras she gave me along with buying blouses/having me use same facial creams and lotions she uses I’m her soft submissive weak and feminine cream puff girl. This is what I wanted and it’s happening for real. Not just with her but with all of the mistresses along with Ms Erika in permanent feminization.
I do feel bad for the beginner submissives who, in their desire to please women, “over-submit. The only condition under which a submissive should ever be a doormat is in the literal sense – for a mistress to wipe her precious feet on. Mm, that actually sounds pretty good to me right now *checks out pretty toes*.
Thankyou EMPRESS CONSTANCE you are a intelligent writer .i do feel safe protected by the MISTRESS’S of the ENCHANTRIX EMPIRE and especially by my head Feminzation MISTRESS ERIKA. Thankyou sincerly yours beta bottom bitch tedi
Ms Constance ~ What a wonderful post. I agree with Ms Claire, sometimes a beginner is too eager or some can also confuse submission with abuse. I think submission is very freeing. And although I do not have a submissive bone ~ I do love when I am that comfortable with someone to be a little submissive and so cherish those who feel that way with me.
Ms Kay Marie