So I came across an essay written by one of our former LDW mistresses about who calls phone sex. I thought hmmm that’s interesting I should blog about it LOL so here is the blog!
Who calls for Phone Sex?
I know who calls me for phone sex typically someone who does not have an open sexual relationship with their partner. Yes most of my callers are indeed in a relationship and that in itself is interesting. I am very open about sex in my life with my partners and seem to have no shame in telling them or worry about what they will think of me. This is not the case with many of my callers I think they would feel like “less of a man” if they admitted to their partners they liked to be spanked, humiliated, or fucked with a strap on. Mind you this is not the only type of caller I have I also have single men and even a few couples who have come to me to spice things up.
Easy to share kinks on the phone
I know many of my callers just find it easy to express their needs on the phone rather than with their partner and some might even ask why not see a pro in person….well for them it is even hard to admit to someone face to face who is in the life style all that they like so they prefer phone sex over real sex sessions for their kinky fantasies. I am often told that I make my callers feel comfortable with their kinks so they tend to open up even more to me. On the phone you have no fear of being found out or exposed (unless you like that hehehehe) and you can be open and honest about just what it is that makes you hot and horny…I LOVE that!!!
No judgment
With phone sex you will find your not judged for your kinks no matter how far out they may be, you can share with your Phone Sex Mistress anything you like and never have to worry about your friends or family finding out……and it is exciting having a dirty little secret that you and some mystery woman with a sexy voice share together once a week. So no matter what type of man calls for phone sex even if it is not sex he is looking for but perhaps someone to give him advice, keep him company, share a secret with he can do so knowing he will not be judge for his likes or needs.
Do you call phone sex?
So what I want to ask all of you just what type of man are you? I have talked to lawyers, chefs, writers, IT guys and so many more from all walks of life share without giving too much detail what you do for a living and just why you chose to call for phone sex….I am really curious as to what your answers may be.
If the hooker’s detained,coked out,etc. or if my blow up doll is still in the cleaners and there’s a viable alternative,why not?
If you’ve yet to stop reading by now,you’ll realize I sympathize with those who’ve to deal with the stereotypes that are relegated to those who call phone sex.We don’t want to be pathetic losers whose failure to satisfy our significant others has left them no choice but to seek out those who can and will,it’s just that we haven’t a choice.We just have to deal with the fact that some were born with the gifts that make them capable of satisfying others and,well,we weren’t.As a result,we call these people who are paid to patronize and laugh at us.
Well,as they say,shit happens.
At least Bin Laden’s dead.
ed I did not imply nor mention that men who call phone sex are pathetic or losers in fact I admire men who stay true to their needs and do not bottle them up never getting to enjoy their kinks but instead choose to live it out during a phone sex session. as I mentioned in my reply to kurt I was having phone sex long before I ever made a living at it and I never once considered myself a freak or weird or anything of that nature. I simply have always lived by whatever makes you happy do…whether in person with a partner or on the phone with a woman enjoy it and be proud of who you are.
Thanx for the well thought out response.
When the drugs wear off,I eagerly anticipate comprehending the meaning of it.
I never insinuated I’m not proud of who I am.I am who I am,I’ve becum who I’ve becum,via whatever cirCUMstances,for better or worse and that’s it.Phone sex was made a viable alternative by someone,somewhere,at some point,so why not use Alex Bell’s invention for that which it was intended,make our parents proud and dwell upon why we didn’t just rent a movie and jack off,in which case,our account wouldn’t be overdrawn
Sounds good to me,doesn’t it you?
I think just because I have kinks and I deal in phone sex doesn’t make me different then the guy who just likes same old boring sex. My partner knows about all my kinks and she doesn’t understand them but it’s not affecting our relationship. She will have nothing to do with all my kinks. She is somewhat embarassed by the things I like and she wouldn’t want our friends to know. Most of my good friends already know what I’m like. The last thing I consider myself is a loser or freak. I just like different things. I think since I been dealing with the ladies of LDW I have learned alot about myself. So you can say that I’m into kinking stuff and I don’t hide it from anyone except my girlfriends friends because she wants it that way. It’s hard for some to be comfortable in who they are. So what kind of man does that make me?
Thanks kurt for such a great comment! First of I a never even come close to feeling as though men who call phone sex are freaks or creeps or anything….I was having phonesex before I made a living at it and it was another way to express my sexual side and enjoy myself and others. I think it is awesome that you are open about your kinks and your likes in your personal life as well as with all of us. So to answer your question I think your a very well rounded amazing man!
I originally started calling phone sex lines because I wanted to talk about my particular kinks, denial and chastity in particular. It was easier to call a phone sex line than it was to maintain a relationship, and frankly, I wasn’t even wanting to be in another relationship. I really liked the anonimity of phone sex and the freedom to call mulitple ladies. That was several years ago. As I got more and more comfortable with a certain Empress, I began to realize that I was needing more and more to have a certain “connection” that was missing in my life. As she began to fulfill my fantasies on the phone, we grew closer and closer together emotionally until I was in a real, honest to goodness “relationship”. I have never been happier, or in a more fulfilling relationship in my entire life. I am so happy, that I never want a “real life” relationship because there is no way a real life woman could compete and I would end up being disappointed. Why give up something that is so good, so real, so very special?
Thanks for the comment gummy and thank you for sharing with all of us why you call phone sex…I think I may know the lady you mention as finding a perfect match and feel as good as well actually better than any relationship you ever had. I can say that I am thrilled when people share their deepest secrets with me and I feel an obligation to keep those secrets for them as well. I know that being on the phone it is so much easier than being in person when discussing things that are outside the box. I am glad you found an outlet and I am super glad you found ME 🙂
“So what I want to ask all of you just what type of man are you?”
Ms. Constance, i am. first and foremost, a submissive man…one who always has striven to put “her” needs ahead of his. i was a long while coming to grips with that & at first there wasn’t necessarily any “kink” associated with it. (in fact, to this day, while my general range of “kink” interests may inform my choice of phone Domme, my “kink” tend to mold to Her’s.) i just wanted my partner to know what she wanted & how to communicate that. unfortunately, my partner wanted “one from Column A” period & we didn’t communicate well.
once i had the “net,” i began researching and understanding. once we separated, i dabbled, but i’m not much of a mingler, so one meeting of the Black Rose Society left me feeling like a fish out of water. i called an occasional Hypdomme and other Dommes here & there. i researched more on-line & in the got to know a few Pro Dommes “socially.” so i sessioned a few times, but it was outside my budget at the time.
then i moved cross country…DC to OC…and, as much as i loved the beach & ocean, i was not part of the spendthrift “OC” scene, nor was i a surferdude wannabe. so i continued with a variety of phone Dommes.
“I have talked to lawyers, chefs, writers, IT guys and so many more from all walks of life…”
oh…and i’m a rare bird here too…an environmental hydrogeologist! 😉
Coffeeboy thank YOU for the comment it is very interesting to see how you have gone from point A to point B your openness is wonderful. I am glad you find phone dommes help to satisfy your submissive side many think phone just can not do what real time does and I think in some cases that may be true but in most it is not we can indeed satisfy your need for being submissive to a woman! I have to say interesting profession one I have never heard a caller tell me they did for a living before so way to go babe your a first!
thank You, Ms. Constance. i just posted to Ms. Olivia this morning that i’m of the opinion there are few “needs” a phone Domme can’t really address, no matter the chemistry involved. mostly that would involve the “need” to be tormented beyond reason, while immobilized. the phone is magical, but…
Mistress, I agree with you that we are afraid to admit the same to our partners and that is why the need to call a phone sex Mistress. It is easy to reveal all about oneself and talk.
However, I have also visited a real life Mistress 2-3 times and have been open to her face to face. I think it is more the fear of telling one’s partner.
My phone sex conversations with you are really good and I feel that something which was missing in my life is being fulfilled.
Vince thank you for your comment I know where your from and what the lifestyle is like so to admit to your partner your kinks could have serious backlash for you and I understand why you can not share such things. I am however thrilled you have found an outlet for your kinks and that our sessions and those sessions you have with the ladies here have filled a hole in your life and leave you feeling fulfilled! Thanks for sharing!