This is the second part of my chastity interview with Smoothrage from California
When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?
No way! 🙂 Without a device I can only last about three or four days, and that’s if I’m really trying. I don’t know if I’m different than other guys but my hands start getting a mind of their own, everything gets very sensitive and my thoughts are uncontrollable. Without a device orgasm denial is just a myth for me. If I’m not trying to hold back then the normal routine would be once or twice a day.
When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?
This question illustrates the inherent irony in chastity play. Masturbating about not being able to masturbate. Anyway, I would say probably about 75% of the time. If not chastity then almost always some form of femdom and/or bondage.
I think abandonment fantasies would probably fill that remaining 25% pretty well. That’s the idea of a girl tying me up (or locking me in a dog cage) and leaving to go about her business or go out with friends. I guess it’s sort of like full-body chastity. As with chastity, this fantasy probably stems from some real-world experiences I’ve had with an ex.
What did it feel like the first time be be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?
Amazing! (BTW, Just the fact that you asked this question indicates your understanding of the chastity experience.) A man goes through a wide range of feelings the first 20 minutes of being locked. I can still vividly recall standing there, holding my penis… and yet not holding it. The normal sensation was completely gone. It was a trip as my mind rapidly alternated between amazement at the physical sensation, and fear as the realization sunk in that I would no longer be able to masturbate at will and I had no idea for how long.
How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?
Not knowing really brings out the submissive feelings in me. As others have said it’s a two-edged sword. On the one hand the idea of being completely in the dark about when I would be granted an orgasm is a huge turn-on. In real-life situations, though, it is often good to have a goal to be working towards, if only to help keep my spirits up. My keyholders have often given vague hints as to when I might get out or a minimum sentence (that tends to get extended over and over). I suppose it’s a compromise to get the best of both approaches.
What is at the heart of chastity play for you? What is the draw?
Amour Courtois…Courtly love. The romantic notion of being fully devoted to woman, of being infatuated with her, of being consumed with desire for her to the point that I would sacrifice much to demonstrate my devotion. I don’t mean devotion in a groveling, humiliating way, but more of a heroic, stoic sort of way.
Is there anything else you would like to add about chastity?
When I first went from reading stories about chastity to actually trying it in real life, I was surprised to find that everyone sees it a little differently. Some think of it as BDSM, some think of it as a practical solution to over-masturbation. Some enjoy the feeling of the device while others like the emotional and relationship implications. In any case, we’re a community and we’re in the minority (at least at the moment). I think it’s important to stick together. As we seek out those who understand the chastity game in the same way we do, we need to remember to respect those who may see it a little differently.
This was a great interview I really enjoyed reading his feelings and seeing it through his eyes. If you would like to do an interview on chastity please mail me at Constance@enchantrixempire.com
This was a great interview Ms Constance. I’m really starting to learn what chastity is all about. Another great job, and you too SmoothRage. Thanks for sharing.
kurt thanks for following my blog!!! I am so glad I could help you and others understand why those who enjoy chastity and orgasm denail enjoy it the way they do!
I enjoy reading these interviews it helps me to understand what chastity is and why some people choose to go into chastity. Thank you for sharing with us SmoothRage, this was a very revealing interview.
Forrest I live to shine light on chastity to those who may not get it….and although they still may not want it for them i think these chastity interviews do help you all underestand what it is about. Thanks for being a fan!!