We all have our different things we enjoy.  It might surprise you to know that many can have a kink they like, but that does not make them submissive.

Far to often we get a painting of a kink and we think anyone who does this must be a subbie

For instance there are men who enjoy wearing panties and feminine clothing such as bras and pantyhose and all kinds of sexy frilly things, but they do so for the feeling of the fabric for the naughtiness factor and because it turns them on.

This does not however make them submissive or gay or even bi-sexual…they just like it.  They have no desire to be humiliated, coerced to wear these things, be on their knees or any other thing associated with being submissive.

Strap on play is another good example of what a man may enjoy that has nothing to do with being submissive. I have fucked many a alpha male with my strap on simply because it was something we both enjoyed. Yes, I get a power rush out of being dominant  but the man is not being submissive he just enjoys anal sex.  Surprisingly this also doesn’t mean they are bi-sexual, in fact some men who enjoy strap on play want nothing to do with a real cock.

I think for me it boils down to this…being submissive is not brought on by your kink but it is instead a mental frame of mind first and the kink part comes after.

So for those of you out there that enjoy a kink but would not classify yourself as submissive I hear you, I get it and I embrace it…..now let’s have some kinky fun!