Today we will discuss past clients and if i ever think about them once they stop calling….the short answer is YES. I have been here at ldw for a decade now and over these past 10 years I have met and enjoyed so many amazing callers. Many of my callers established a relationship with me in some way. Some I was closer to than others but that’s how life is, sometimes you connect deeper with some more so than others, it does not mean I don’t care about those I didn’t have such a deep connection with.
So how do I handle when a client has moved on….simply put I handle it like a mature rational adult. I often have found that many clients just move on to other things and never even mention they will stop calling….and this is fine. Nobody is obligated to me for anything just like I am not obligated to anyone for anything. of course I would prefer knowing rather than wondering but in some cases it is not possible. If I don’t have the reaction you would like me to have such as crying and questioning your motives and reasons well I apologize it is not in my nature to be this way but it does not mean I don’t care.
Many things happen that might be the reason for client not to call anymore…life sometimes fucks us up and it happens. I never take it personally if a client stopped calling me because of something I did well I suppose he has reasons for not wanting to discuss it with me. I wont hound or pressure anyone for anything…..so if it was me and they moved on okay….I don’t sit around boo hooing about it.
Other times is it major life events that make a caller stop reaching out and of course I totally get it having been through several major life events in my time here at LDW some of which kept me from the phones for some time. Life happens you don’t owe me an explanation. I wish you well and hope everything turns out okay for you.
Now some clients I have grown super close to over the years have moved on to other things in life such as focusing on loved ones or work. These clients almost always say goodbye in some fashion either by a phone call or an email. How I handle it is to be understanding, sympathetic (when need be) cool an calm…some take this as unfeeling or cold but I am far from those things. I am not in the habit to throw a fit or be ridiculous about them not calling anymore. Do I miss them YES do I wish they still called of course i do but I am not the type to cry, throw a fit, be unreasonable about them having to move on. Do I think about them from time to time and the good times we have had YES. But life moves on and everyone changes and this is part of life so I deal with it.
Now if you are a previous client of mine and wonder how I would react to your return to my phone well simply put you will be welcomed back with open arms….no questions asked no explanations needed. Share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. Also if you wanted to reach out via e-mail at any time you know you are free to do so as well.
For those who have had to move on ( you know who you are) that I was especially close with just Know I think about you……..I miss you……and I hope you are doing well.
So there you have it how I feel/think when callers cant call. This is not exactly a fun nor sexy blog but a topic that has come up recently on several occasions and one I thought I should address publicly.
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Mistress, I think it is just common courtesy to not just “disappear into thin air” whenever you have a somewhat close relationship with someone, even if it is just by phone or e-mail, just so the other person is not left wondering “I wonder whatever happen to …?” And as you said, no detailed explanation is needed. I’m sure if you were to decide to leave LDW, your clients and those who interact with you in other ways would like to know in advance that you are leaving, rather than just one day see you have no website, etc. For that reason, I think your clients and such should provide you the same courtesy and let you know they are moving on, again, with only as much detail as they want to share. By the way, I’m not going anywhere anytime soon!
As someone who has needed to take a break from all forms of play due to work/career reasons, this is great to hear. In my case, the good news is I will be ready to resume play again this fall.
This post is especially meaningful to Me, Miss Constance, because recently I found out what became of a submissive with whom I’d like to think I became close over time, who suddenly went radio silence. I worried about him, because I knew he had some life challenges. But thankfully, he communicated with another Mistress he is also close with, and asked Her to pass along the situation.
Was it necessary? No. He didn’t owe Me any explanation, certainly. Do I regret that due to circumstances beyond both O/ur control, O/ur D/s play had to end? Yes. But I also completely understand, and wish him all the best.
I want My slaves happy, healthy, and stable in their lives outside of Me. If that means W/e have to say goodbye, I completely understand, and they go with My blessing.
Yes MISTRESS thankyou sissy tedi, thankyou EMPRESS. CONSTANCE Sincerly yours beta bottom bitch tedi
You also ask fuck about some part of them leaving. As in what the fuck happened to them? I wonder how the fuck they are, or, in my case. Nacho better fucking not be fapping.
Infidels! Who would leave a Goddess ? Lol …. great post
Mistress Constance!
Not a sexy post, but one which is needed. I’m similar in mind with you. I don’t take it personally if someone vanishes. I’m here for a good kinky time when they have the time, if life gets in the way I get it. I wish them well on their journey regardless if they are calling me, or not.
Thank you for this! See you around the Empire!
We do form bonds with a lot of our callers. We change and life changes. Falling out of touch is sometimes a part of that and no explanation ever has to be given. I think that is the one boundary truly frees us to give the most of ourselves to our callers and gives them the freedom to expose a side to us that most people in their lives don’t even glimpse. How amazing is that?
Someone knowing that if they decide to call back and will be welcomed, I think speaks for most of us Mistresses here. Thank you for this Miss Constance!