I was talking to someone the other day and for whatever reason the thought of masturbation planning has stuck with me. Who better to share these thoughts with than all of you.
Masturbation Planning
When I talk about masturbation planning I mean like actually thinking ahead and deciding I am going to masturbate on this day at this time. Perhaps your masturbation planning is part of an assignment, or orgasm denial or any number of things. But what I am really curious to know is have you ever planned your masturbation either on your own or with someone.
How to plan masturbation
There are a few things that come to mind when I think of masturbation planning. One is how you set aside time alone and freedom to masturbate without fear of being walked in on. So first thing you need to do is find the time. The next is what will you masturbate too? Porno? Erotic audios or writing? Or do you plan to masturbate with your Mistress on the phone?
Masturbation toys
So now you have planned out your masturbation with time and how you plan to get off. This is when you figure out if you want any toys. Things like a flesh light, a dildo or even a nice ripe cantaloupe hehehe! Once you decide what you will use, how you will do it and when it is time you can have some fun.
Masturbation Planning is complete
Now that your masturbation planning is complete all that’s left to do is sit back and enjoy a hot masturbation session either alone or with some masturbation guidance. You can do this in the way of say ME or another Mistress ( cheesy plug). Masturbation planning is an interesting concept one I think I have done myself but without really realizing that is what I was doing. I know many of you who set up an appointment are planning to masturbate but it never occurred to me that it was indeed masturbation planning.
Do you plan your masturbation
So now this is where you get to tell me…. masturbation planning is it something you have done? Did you know or realize that’s what you were doing or now that I have pointed it out you are thinking oh yeah I have planned out my masturbation!
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“Masturbation planning is an interesting concept one I think I have done myself but without really realizing that is what I was doing. I know many of you who set up an appointment are planning to masturbate but it never occurred to me that it was indeed masturbation planning.”
I think you sum it up pretty well right there for me. I suppose I have “planned” masturbation quite a bit, even down to which toys I want to use. I’m not sure it’s fair to call it a plan though as I rarely follow through. Pretty often I’ll be somewhere that I’m not free to play so I’ll think about what I want to do later. Most of the time when that “later” comes around, though, I’ve either lost the mood or something else comes up.
glad you enjoyed this jp and we need to work on the later coming around and you being ready to go
I let “Mistress” do the planning 🙂
good cuckie
I guess you could say I am a planner since I do almost all my calls by appointment. And I usually have some sort of scenario or toy(s) in mind. Add to that the edging program I’m on now, so I have to figure out roughly times during the day when I will stroke, and I guess you could call me the master planner in addition to the mastur-bator. Ha! Never thought about it this way before.
yup you are a planner for sure no doubt
Well let’s see. I plan to call You. And I plan which picture of You I will use for visual aid. Then I have lube, candle, wooden spoon and any other play time thing You tell me to have ready. Other than that You tell me when to start and stop. You tell me What my masturbation homework.
So really YOU plan when I’m allowed to masturbate! And I’m pretty thankful for that!
hehehe I love that you plan all this pet!!!
This is an awesome topic, Ms. Constance!
I, for one, think that masturbation should NOT be done compulsively, but should be planned!! I have put several men on masturbation schedules…including subby hubby jack! I think planned masturbation is important so it does not get out of control or worse, become a compulsive problem!
🙂 Ms. Delia
It’s not something I’ve really thought about, but yes, I would say most of the time is planned. If you take the moment you decide to pull it out and stroke it when you have privacy or time. Or, if it’s part of a stroking assignment that a Mistress has given you, you have to kind of “build” that time into a day. But, I’ve been known, on one of those “special” weekends to absent mindlessly just start playing with myself, because I’m so fucking worked up. With permission of course, lol. 🙂
yes you plan it more than you think and I love it hehehe the build up is great
I plan my masturbation, Miss Constance. It is a definite event every day for me! It starts in the morning, before I even get up. I believe that an orgasm first thing gets you off to a great start. I will cum again later in the shower and than at *least* one more time by the end of the night. Considering what we do for a living, it certainly isn’t hard to get revved up from time to time!
For me I plan it. I also need to be wearing bra/heels/lipstick as well with perfume/girlish lotion and slip to rub against my cheeks as well laying down in satin sheets. If you were to dress me as girl and get me off I’d be in on you planning this for me.
nice planning for sure hehehehe
Dear Mistress Constance,
I really liked reading your post and the other mistresses’ comments about masturbation planning. I feel it is very important.
In my case, masturbation is scheduled by my in-person mistresses as part of our get-together sessions. When instructed to, I will masturbate in their presence, and often it is mutual masturbation – along with many other BDSM activities. I also plan my own sessions by calling some of the LDW mistresses. Then I do allocate quality masturbation times as part of my masturbation instructions, which involve orgasm denial. Importantly, once or twice a year, I will schedule masturbation marathons, where I will masturbate for as long a 9 hours, utilizing many different techniques to stroke my cock and massage my cum-filled balls.
Thank you for a great post!
you are so welcome thanks for sharing your great comment and I love your masturbation planning
Ms Constance ~ What a great original post! It really made me think. Not about how many do make appointments or ask for a stroking schedule ~ but how often I personally do it! Ms Delia is spot on, planned masturbation is important for both keeping it in control and to avoid compulsive behavior. I would also add that it keeps it fun and mixing it up some. When you plan something ~ you make sure it is good!
It’s both planned and spontaneous for me. The planned ones are when I know I will have plenty of alone time to get on cam for one of the lovely mistresses of LDW. When I know ahead of time I start thinking about what fantasy I want to play out, the toys I will use, etc etc etc. The spontaneous ones happen when the house is unexpectedly empty. if I don’t have much time I rub one out looking at some of my favorite porn. If I know I will have a little more time to play I check online to see which mistress is available and call in for an unplanned session.
I will say, that for the most part my masturbation is unplanned. The problem with this is that when left to my own devices (ie the house is empty) I will masturbate as often as I can (sometimes 2-3 times per day, other times 1 every few days). So I don’t plan them…I just do them whenever I can and as often as I can.