I am often in the position where I am helping others discover their kinky side and exploring kinky play with them for the first time. One thing I always tell those exploring a new kink for the first time is don’t over think the kink.
Embrace the kinky play
When you are in a phone session with me I want you to embrace the kinky play your interested in. Let all pre conceived notions about what this might say about you or what others may think just go away. The sooner you embrace it the sooner you can truly open yourself up to a wonderful kinky experience.
Everyone’s idea about kink play is different
I know this all too well that everyone has their own idea of what kinky play is to them, for some kink play may mean dirty talk and for others it could mean dangling weights from their balls ( don’t try this at home alone) just remember everyone has a kinky side even those who wont admit it and everyone’s idea of kinky is different.
Phone sex for kinky play
Here with me you can explore kinky phone sex without any fear of it getting out, without any feelings of you have freaked me out or grossed me out unlike if you were to bring a kinky topic up to your partner. I will help you explore your kinky side in a safe and comfortable way and pushing your kinky boundaries only when we both know it is time.
Don’t over think the kink
So no matter what it is you think is kinky don’t over think it, don’t spend hours trying to figure out why you like the kinky sex you like instead embrace it. If you are not hurting anyone or putting anyone in danger or breaking any laws then don’t over think your kink. Explore enjoy and share your kinky needs with your Mistress and find a whole new kink world out there just waiting for you!
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Oh Miss Constance this is a wonderful blog post that really hits home for me. I hear from some phone sex playmates that they are ‘afraid’ of what a fem dom might do to them! Now, I understand that we fem dommes have that reputation but like you’ve said here, everyone’s kink is different and we’re not all on the same level. I can find a simple blindfold kinky; it doesn’t always have to be all domination all the time.
Thank you for this comment yes it always surprises me the pre conceived notions people have of how a femdom is or behaves and I love breaking that mold and letting them share all things kinky to them
You know how meaningful this post is to me Constance. Relaxing and enjoying and even embracing my kinks has been quite a journey, and I am sure I would not be where I am today without you and Kaylee. I’m glad we have come this far and I look forward to the rest of the journey!
aww cool thanks for the comment and I am glad you have come so far too 🙂
Good advice about not overthinking. I’m working on doing that with new kinks even as i type this 🙂
yes cuckie you have done an amazing job of not over thinking your kink so proud of ya
Ms. Constance, this is fantastic advice about overthinking!
I think sometimes we ALL overthink the kink, but we really should just go with what is hot that feels good! I really like what bfla has to say, and it is quite a compliment to you and Ms. Kaylee! It is so great to have a Mistress like you to explore with, because you are so right…It is ONLY kinky the first time. After that is just hot and sexy fun!
🙂 Ms. Delia
why thank you Ms Delia yup I agree we are all guilty of over thinking our kinks I think it is normal to want to know the how and why and the what does this say about me it is just best not to over think it if at all possible