Happy Hump Day Everyone!! As usual I have received many great questions and here are just a few with my answers and or advice for those who sent them in. If you have a question for me kinky or otherwise feel free to submit them to me using my Ask Mistress Constance tab right here on my blog.
Dear Mistress:
I’m a single male and I’m wearing a chastity cage. My wonderful online keyholder is taking care of the keys and I’m perfectly fine with this part. But I long for love, I long for a relationship or in other words I don’t want to be single anymore. So I decided to go to a dating event this Friday and try my luck. Now let’s assume that I am lucky and meet someone… would you say that I should mention my chastity and other fetishes at this event? I believe being honest from the beginning is important; on the other hand I’d probably make them run away before they even get to know me?
First of all let me say way to go on the chastity, it is not easy and I admire you for giving up that control. Second, you should find love, everyone deserves love BUT do not tell someone you just met about your kinks and chastity. You have no idea where this will go and the average person has no idea what chastity is or any of that so why freak them out? So what I suggest moving forward is when you meet a lady you like and you go out…wait till the third or fourth date before you start to very carefully disclose what you are into. Be prepared to explain it, don’t just say I like XYZ, move on explain each thing you like and why. Good Luck and do let us know how everything is going
Dear Mistress:
Beside LDW area, do you in real life, in daily life (non sexual) feel the power and influence you have in mans lives, all those small Yes’s you collect along the day, where other would get many No’s ?
Yes but it has nothing to do with me being a femdom or a sexy woman, it has everything to do with my treatment of others, I am polite friendly and yes even flirty and men tend to just want to give me what I ask for.
Dear Mistress:
Ok Mistress, interested in your thoughts on this one. Let’s say you’re involved with a really hot, cute, super slutty sissy who also happens to be very smart. So smart, in fact, that the sissy makes millions of dollars each year. The problem is that when this sissy isn’t allowed to make sissy cummies (or when she’s in chastity), she is totally distracted, constantly thinking of Mistress, cocks and cum, and doesn’t do well at work – thereby hindering her ability to bring home the bacon. Would you actually let this sissy cum regularly so she could continue to thrive in business? Or would you keep her locked up, sucking cocks aching to cum and let her work life remain distracted?
Oh this is an excellent question!!!!! That is a double edged sword because I love chastity and I love cock sucking sissy sluts…but I also try to keep the kink play to where it does not affect the daily life and wellbeing of my sluts. So what I would do is create a sort of schedule for chastity and cock sucking perhaps allowing unlock during the day at work and lock up before leaving. This would help the sissy concentrate and get work done yet still satisfy my need to lock up that clitty. Now as to if the sissy gets cummies, well I would make it so that she had to make x amount of dollars before release, this should motivate the slut to make that money!!!
Dear Mistress:
How should I handle the situation where a Mistress is not meeting my needs, even after I have communicated them in writing and on the phone? She hasn’t said no to anything, and it is a good time with her, but when I say or write things I want to do on calls, she does other stuff. Fun stuff, but not what I asked. I need to bring it up, but how?
I actually discussed this on my radio show…my advice is if once you had communicated clearly what you are lacking or need or what have you, if she is still not giving you what you want or need….Let her know how important those things are to you and that if she cannot provide what you need that you will move on and find another Mistress. This is much better than having those feelings of not being happy and way better than resenting her or not looking forward to your time together…but bottom line is communicate, be very clear about what is missing and give her the chance to make it right.
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