I have been doing the Ask Mistress for a couple of weeks now and one of the questions I got was from someone who wants to be a cuckold husband , I thought it was such a great question I would devote a whole blog to it.
Cuckold Husband wannabe Question:
My wife and I have wished to explore a cuckold relationship for sometime now, but she has turned down every bull I have suggested and every time she goes to a bar or club to hook up with one she comes home without having done so. I believe she doesn’t want to do this but she denies it and claims she is genuinely trying. What do you think I should do
My Thoughts for this cuckold husband wannabe:
Well first of all I would not keep bringing it up to her…..you have planted the seed she seems to be interested but she does not need to be pressured. The idea is a hot one for her and in fantasy she gets turned on by the thought of fucking a bull while her husband is watching, but the reality is in her mind when it comes time to do so she is freaking out.
Everything we are taught in life suggests that we shouldn’t sleep around with other men when married and even if your husband wants to be a cuckold that in some way this will impact your relationship and it could be the beginning of the end. She is going through that sheer panic in her mind every time she goes out to find a bull to fuck in front of her cuckold husband.
Take the time to put your cuckold fantasy aside and give her space to absorb and truly understand that you are going nowhere, that her sleeping with a bull will not be the end of your marriage. YOU need to reassure her you need to make sure she is comfortable. When she is ready she will make that step but you telling her you really don’t think she wants to is only going to make it worse, you picking out the bull is not going to work for her she needs to do this on her terms and in her time frame.
Bottom line be supportive understanding and realize for a wife to cuckold her husband she has to feel totally secure in their relationship and work past the idea that all girls are taught to be a loving loyal wife and to never cheat on their husbands. Remember this is a life time of training and being exposed to what a marriage should be that she is dealing with so your desire for her to cuckold you goes against everything she has ever known, seen or heard and it may take time.
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Good advice 🙂
thanks cuckie 🙂
I’ve suggested to my wife that she should find a man to take care of her needs when she’s complained about the lack of sex. She kindof ignored the suggestions at first and recently has become rather taken back by the suggestion. So I’ve backed off suggesting it.
I think it’s natural for the potential cuck to want to push their wife but the reality is she should be in charge and decide what she wants and when she wants. After all it’s about her pleasure not the cucks.
I think that was very wise of you to back off and let things happen naturally for her…..I know that pushing may seem natural but to a woman it sends her into a panic almost where we question the motives and such
Very, very true! I hate feeling pressured. And once the seed is planted, all you have to do is wait for it to blossom! Women are totally conditioned to be good wives and that is a lot to overcome in a short time. You have to just be patient. I think the person asking the question is fortunate that he gets to share his cuckold fantasy with his wife! She’s pretty open minded!
That is right plant the seed watch is grow nobody wants to be pressured or bombarded with anything and I agree just being able to say to your partner this is what I would like is a huge thing so count your blessings
Fantastic advice, Ms. Constance. Starting a cuckold relationship can be a very fragile, slow process in the beginning. You are completely right; culturally, women are socialized toward monogamy, so the transition to a cuckold relationship can be anxiety-inducing for some women. Your advice is useful for any cuckold couple, beginner or advanced. It’s all about taking things slowly, providing adequate support, and being open and honest with one another.
I hope your cuckold wannabe fulfills his fantasy!
amen to that fragile is a great way to put it….we are raised in one manner no matter how open your up bringing is everything you see and hear tells us how we should be in a relationship so when a partner wants to go outside of what we know it is fucking freaky and scary
I posted a follow up where he told me whats been going on