Happy Hump Day, everyone!! Of course, on Hump day a few things happen….my radio show at 8 pm and my Ask Mistress post and, of course, without fail, here it is. Remember, if you would like to submit a question to me to be answered in a future post, please feel free to use my tab Ask Ms Constance right here on my blog

Dear Mistress:
I am not sure I can articulate this as a clear question but will try. I have had a number of women – begging in School seem to dominate me and it is always (or feels so) in relation to my being small endowed. As soon as a woman talks about size I sort of get soft and quiet in tone and demeanor. I am small but I also act and feel small. It is very physical. Sometimes a woman can say even the littlest thing and it hits me like a bullet. Usually it is if she calls me something that might indicate I am small. If she says “sweetie” or “sweet heart” or “hun” or directs me in some sort of way I have this odd visceral reaction like she “knows” I am small endowed. I know she cannot truly but it feels that way and I sort of melt…why is that?

It’s because even though she has no proof… what you put out there in the way of your demeanor and simply how you carry yourself lends itself to ladies being sweet and kind to you, which in your submissive brain and with your small penis equals sexual turn on to you. I am no expert, but I do know when a man is truly submissive and when a man is not well endowed and is embarrassed by it, women pick up on it and it shows…..Embrace it and enjoy it is my advice.

Dear Mistress:
Both my husband and I share a fantasy of me cuckolding him with a well-endowed black man. Judging from pornography we’re not alone in this fantasy. Why do you think black males are so popular as bulls in cuckold fantasies? From personal experience I know that racial differences in penis size is just a stereotype, so that can’t be it.

I think the perception is out there that all black men are hung and pornos cater to that perception. You won’t see a porno made with a black man with a small dick because nobody wants to see that, at least not in main stream porn anyways. I think many cuckolds love the idea of a big, black cock because they feel that black men across the boards have bigger cocks than white men. I will say this, I have seen many a huge cock in my day and 70% were black. What that means about all black cock, I don’t know….but big, black cock is hot!

Dear Mistress:
How do you handle dominant males?

The same way I handle any human being I meet….you get what you give. If you mean how to I handle dominant men who try to assert their dominance over me, I typically find it amusing and sometimes will even play along just to toy with them.

Dear Mistress:
I read where you have sex about 4 times a week. That’s great! Is it with the same guy or different men? How many different men make up those 4 times? Do you have more than one regular partner?

I have 2 regular men in my life and of those 4, and yes, sometimes more than 4 times a week, it is one or the other. I do, however, have several fuck buddies and they all have their place, but my main partners are 2 different guys.

Dear Mistress:
My fiancé practices cross-dressing, but has a problem with purging. The last time he did this I saved his clothes from the trash without his knowledge to give back to him when he got over it. My question is how do I bring up the subject without embarrassing him and how can I be sure he won’t just throw them out again?

First of all, if you know it, does he know you know? I think the best thing to do, if he is not aware that you know, is have an open discussion about it. Purging happens when a cross dresser or sissy feels guilty about what they are doing and sometimes they are simply confused by it. By coming clean and talking to him about it, you can let him know you are aware he is a cross dresser and you are fine with it. If he gets embarrassed or upset, just reassure him that it is him you love and nothing will change that….then talk about purging and set up a safe place to store things if he ever feels the need to step away from it again. Hey, and kudos to you for being so open minded about it!