Today I would like to talk about serving your Mistress. Many times I am approached by a submissive man and the main focus is sexual, yes I get it I am in the phone sex business so that’s normal. I am talking about outside of the business aspect. So unless we are on the phone or in a sexy texting session our interactions are not always sexual in nature. To me this is a super important aspect of any relationship. it makes me no less your Mistress or you no less my Submissive it makes it healthy and normal to me.
So how does one still serve a Mistress without it being sexual? Billions of ways! You being present and patient is one way for sure. Making me smile and laugh are other ways. Writing up a short blurb for my blog or doing a silly audio are other ways. Letting me know of typos in my blogs or tweets are also ways to serve. You see serving is not all about sex and kinky fun serving is giving of oneself without any expectations….simply having the satisfaction of making your Mistress happy even if it is a simple small gesture is what serving your Mistress is all about.
I have never kept it a secret that a 24-7 yes ma’am type of submissive is not my thing I don’t enjoy it and find it boring and tiring. I want to have the every day as well as the kinky play with all of you I enjoy. I do not want you doing things for me you don’t enjoy simply because I found joy in it at one point with another. What I do with others is not what I want to do with you, however I do appreciate those who are willing to explore and expand their minds about things but it in no way means it is a must have.
So next time you are thinking about serving this Mistress think of all the many ways sexual and regular that would please me and go with that…do not feel obligated or less then because you cant do what others do and such…..or think unless it is sexual it is not serving.
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A timely and perfect post…..I do hope that my service pleases You in every way that you desire….kink and otherwise. I do pray that i may continue to be worhty and that i am useful both in kinky and other ways in …pleasing, entertaining, serving and generally being all i can unselfishly be for You…….While i may not exactly be a “24/7 yes man”….i do hope “NO’ is rarely in my vocabulary lol…… Let me just say that i am blessed to serve you……however, whenever and wherever you need me to! Thank you for being YOU!
Mistress Constance!
Oh so true! I love this post for a number of reasons. If you consider yourself a submissive to a particular lady, you have to put her needs first. You’ve clearly spelled out your needs, here and I’m sure the plethora of males who you’ve captured their attention, and cocks will take head and obey.
Well said. And equally important, while your sexual attention is beguiling, your non-sexual attention is amazing too. Your opinions, advice, and sense of humor are equally as attractive as your kinky interactions.
Thank you for all of it. It is a pleasure to serve, and that is the truth.
What a wonderful post! One of the things I love about you is that you’re REAL with your conversations and blog posts. These are great points — what we do allows us to be really intimate with the right person and that means having a full relationship where the non-sexual makes the sex even hotter! 🙂 🙂
BOOM!! You’ve just been SERVED!!!
I agree with you, Ms. Constance. The 24-7 “service” from a sub begins to feel as if I have to be in hardcore Mistress mode and feeding that subs need all the time. Sometimes just doing things as a friend feels more like real service. The submissive doesn’t necessarily get a big thrill, but *I* feel special and served. 🙂
Wow, that’s a good way to put it, Miss Piper. The feeling that One must always be in hardcore Mistress mode with a 24-7 sub. I mean, I get it–some submissives have a lot of responsibility, and even a degree of unhappiness in their lives outside of kink, and O/ur play is a sort of escape. It can be tempting to look for a quick escape from reality every time they see Me. But I’m a real person too, and sometimes want to simply interact as two real people.
That’s not to say it’s ever welcome to assume familiarity, just because W/e’re not in session. Like calling Me “baby” and stuff like that. *blegh*