Many of you have had fantasies involving anal play which may include a strap on and other anal toys, well after having a very hot discussion with a client about anal play and giving him some advice I thought I should cover it on my blog.

Is Anal Play for You?

Well if you have masturbated while thinking about having something in your ass I would say it is for you. If you have imagined a woman throwing you onto a bed and fucking you with her strap on…I would say it is for you. If you have ever slipped your finger into your ass while thinking about such fantasies well my dear it is not only for you but it is time to explore more!

Fingers First

I suggest that when you first explore anything anal with yourself use your fingers……start by slipping one in very slowly and then go from there……give yourself time to adjust and relax taking a deep breath before slipping your entire finger inside.

Once you have that finger inside and it begins to feel good you can begin to slowly slip it in and out yes fucking your ass with your finger. I am sure after several moments of this you will find yourself more excited so now you can explore with two fingers….following the above guide lines taking it slow…giving your ass time to adjust…..taking a deep breath relaxing those muscles and then building yourself up to the full on finger pounding ass fucking.

Anal Toys

Once you have mastered the art of finger fucking your ass and you have decided that it feels so good you just want to go further it is time to explore toys. Now as you know there are so many toys out there and many anal stimulators so it is up to you which you would enjoy perhaps a small butt plug or dildo is what you are looking for. No matter what your choice I suggest you start small! All too often I have someone tell me that the dildo they bought is just too large and uncomfortable for anal play….so start small and work your way up to those big cocks!

Your Best Bet

Your best bet is a suction cup bottom on a nice, let’s say 5 inch dildo…silicone so it is not too hard and rigid. You can stick that dildo onto a hard surface such as a coffee table….a chair and even the wall this way you can simulate the fucking. You will need plenty of lube for your first time so be sure to have some on hand! Begin slowly first slipping the head in and doing as you did for your fingers relax…breath and give your ass time to adjust.

Once you have gotten used to the head begin to slowly….yes slowly push against it allowing more of it to slip inside….apply more lube and take breaks as needed. Once you are able to take that dildo in your ass you can begin to slowly fuck it…yes I say slowly because you are new to this and you can go from never having a cock in your ass to full on ass pounding in a minute…..now once you have gotten used to it and into a nice steady slow rhythm feel free to speed it up and fuck that ass harder and deeper as you like.

There are some of the basics for first time anal sex play feel free to ask any questions you might have here in the comments or give me a call for all your anal advice needs 🙂