Here is another fascinating chastity interview that was recently done for me. I bet all those chastity lovers will absolutely identify with this one….and for those curious I think it is a nice perspective of what chastity is about. I had to break this into two blog posts, so look for the rest tomorrow.
 
Are you locked in a chastity device right now?

Yes, locked up tight in my Spiral. I’m going on just over four weeks.

Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

Real at the moment. It started out with a bang with my ex who kept me locked when we were in college. Over the last couple of years I’ve had periods of being locked and periods of wishing I were locked, depending on the girl I was dating at the time.

When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

Both, for sure. In fact that fear or uncertainty is probably responsible for half of the pleasure in chastity play. I remember my very first time. My ex was getting ready to go on a trip and I had convinced her to lock me and take the key with her. (Looking back it wasn’t too smart to attempt a multi-week sentence on my very first try.)

The days and nights leading up to her departure were agonizing. I couldn’t eat or sleep for fear and excitement of what would come. The device didn’t arrive until the day before she was to leave. I waited outside for the mailman so my roommates wouldn’t see (I was still in college then). I remember my whole body shaking and shivering as I tried to figure out how to fit it properly. I wore it that night just to make sure it would work OK before handing over the keys.

The next day I helped my girl pack her car. Up until that point she had thought the whole thing was a bit silly. By the time we were done packing I had lost my nerve and decided not to hand them over. As we said our goodbyes she asked, “Do you have something for me?” She could tell I was a wreck as my hand holding the key shook violently, I mean it was really visibly shaking. She hugged me and rubbed my back and told me it would be fine. Then she slowly drew the keys from my fingers and pocketed them. Her last word was, “Enjoy!” Then she drove away.

Do you currently have a keyholder?

Yes, well sorta. A girl I dated previously has agreed to be my keyholder again, even though we aren’t dating. It’s not ideal and she wants me to eventually find a new keyholder. But there is something about an ex-girlfriend as a keyholder that adds a little extra bite.

How would you describe your ideal keyholder?

I think this is the most important question on the survey. When I talk about chastity with vanilla folks, they almost always imagine an extreme BDSM situation. Women often say things like, “Oh, I could never do that. I’m not that mean.”

For me, and I think for a lot of guys, the appeal of chastity is in simultaneously wanting release/sex and wanting to be denied. I think that’s why a good keyholder is a sexual, sensual caring person while somehow artfully balancing being a strict tease. When you think about it, women seem to straddle that line all the time. I mean, that’s the definition of flirting, right? Drawing a man in with some mild form of seduction, then denying him thereby causing his desire and frustration to build. (Repeat until the desired results are achieved.)

For those like me the screaming, whip-wielding, boot-licking form of femdom has some appeal but little compared to the sensual variety.
PS She has to be confident enough to inspire respect in me. A good sense of humor helps. An overall friendly and positive attitude is very attractive.

How many chastity devices have you purchased?

Let’s see. In the old days I started with a CB-2000 and CB-3000. The 3000 seemed to work better. Later I moved to the CB-6000 which was the best of the CB-X line. I tried a Bon4 and the BirdLocked but they didn’t seem quite secure enough. Last year I upgraded to metal with an older version of The Spiral that is different than the one now sold on UberKinky.

I’ve got a drawer full of parts and accessories like the points of intrigue or the ksd-g2.

Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

I admit that this is a very hot fantasy. The main drawback here is that you can only live that moment once. You can only enjoy that that ultimate loss of freedom and accompanying sense of finality one time.

Some day I do hope to experience this. It would require the right girl and the right circumstances. Of course, one does not have to know they are in permanent chastity for it to be a reality. If a man knows there is no hope of being let out he may start immediately working to break free. However, if you always give him hope for a release yet continually postpone it, you may be able to keep him locked for much longer. Perhaps I am already on this path and have no idea. 😉

Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event?

I’ve always been turned on by bondage. Even as a kid I remember playing tie-up games with friends and getting a funny feeling inside. I discovered chastity play in college and it was a conceptual turn-on. At the time I was competing for the affection of a girl that I had dated on and off and was madly in in love with. She kept breaking it off because she wanted to have a fun, wild college experience. At one point she decided to date another guy. The moment she told me I felt an overwhelming urge to submit to her, to lock myself up and hand over the keys. I’m not sure if it was some sort of deeply-rooted cuckold angst or if it was more of a chance to stay in her life any way possible. In any case she eventually agreed, leading up to the experience I shared above.

What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

Between orgasms or in continuous chastity? Since I was a teen I think the longest time I’ve gone without orgasm was just over two months, which was due to chastity play. I have had periods of chastity with monthly release that have lasted almost a year.

Stay Tuned the second part of this interview will be posted tomorrow on my blog.