So I was watching TV the other night and there was a show called “what would you do” If you have not caught it yet the basic idea is they put actors in public situations involving all types of current social issues…they use actors and see what the average every day person would do when they see someone being mistreated or even stealing. I am shocked at how many just never get involved even in the some very disgusting situations like a pregnant woman slamming back shots….or someone with a accent won’t be served…people sit and watch in shock but very few stand up for the person being discriminated against.
Now you’re wondering why this is on my phone sex blog right? Well the last one I saw involved two drag queens in a coffee shop and the server not only refused to serve them but also treated them poorly calling them freaks and a disgrace. As I watched how they were treated I could not help but think of all the many cross dressing clients that are very near and dear to me and all the sissy girls and transgendered among us here on our sites……….I found tears coming to my eyes because it was so unfair and honestly disgusted me. A few people spoke up including some kids that said hey that’s not right they are not bothering anyone let them live their lives. This is what touched me the most and why I felt compared to share………at the end the drag queens were hugging a lady who was 8 months pregnant and stood up to the nasty server. She said we don’t just want to be tolerated we want to be accepted just like any other human does…and that is so true when you think about it we all want to be accepted for who we are not just tolerated because were different.
So the next time find yourself judging another’s lifestyle or way of life or even their kink think about the basic human need of acceptance and not just tolerance…………….we all want to be accepted for who we are. I have never been one to sit on the side and allow others to be mistreated because of who they are or how they look or sound……….so please as a fellow human being do not let yourself fall into the category “it is not my problem” and just turn a blind eye to abuse and stand up for what you know is right!
Please Feel Free to comment on this blog I would love to know how you feel about such things. I know it is not my typical sexy stuff but the show and the meaning and purpose behind it truly inspired me to share, and since we all float in this kink world and many of us are not what is considered *society approved* and we get judged all the time I thought it fit in well here.
Very good and thought provoking blog. I haven’t seen this show but I will make it a point to find it and watch it. I would hope that I would always do the right thing….
Thanks for the comment gummy and I am pretty sure you would do the right thing……..just say to yourself what would my empress do 🙂
Words to live by!!! You are wise Empress, very wise indeed………
Thank you so much for writing this. As a species, we tend to fear what we do not know and then hate that which we fear. No one wants to be hated for who they are, and no one deserves to be hated for who they are. No one should ever have to hide who they are.
I’m not a big fan of being “Politically Correct” but this isn’t an issue of political correctness, it’s an issue of basic human decency.
If instead of fearing what we don’t know and trying to make what we don’t know conform to what we do know, we chose to learn and try looking at things from the other perspectives, this world would be a much better place to live in.
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Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
You may say that I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one
— John Lennon
I agree with you 100% alice we tend to live in our little bubble of a world and ignore things around us that have no direct impact on us………but this leads to turning a blind eye to things that are wrong…….I always try to put myself in the position what if it were my loved one being treated like that….being judged by how they look or talk instead of for the amazing people they are. Great song choice and hey it starts with us we can make a change perhaps not with the world but with our families and friends and it will spread and makew this world a better place!!! Thanks so much for the comments!
I think this is a wonderful place to bring up this topic Ms. Constance. A good many of our friends that come to our blogs, visit EE, and even call us are not just interested in having their desires met. They are also seeking acceptance and community with like minded people.
I think your post hit the nail on the head and I’m proud to be your Sister Mistress 😉
Thank you Ms Christine for commenting and I am thrilled I work with women like you! We have very open minds to life and I sometimes just think doesn’t everyone think the way we do and in watching that show I could see NOPE they sure dont. My biggest wish is that our community acceptance of others will spread through out our community and spread and one day everyone will be accepted for who they are not what they like or look like. wishful thinking I know but hey ya gotta have wishes right? 🙂
I saw that one previously and it was a set up to see how witnesses would react.
People are so arrogant as to think that if there are those that have the audacity to be different from someone as perfect as they,they deserve to be shit on(Well,that’s another kink entirely).They can’t conceive of someone actually having the gall to do what THEY want.What makes THEM feel cumfortable.There are those who are upset that others are a different color,ethnicity,sexual orientation than they.DEAL WITH IT BITCH!!!There are Black people,Latino people,Asian People.Hokmosexuals,Transexuals,Bisexuals.Seven billion people in the world and EVERYBODY has the right to live THEIR life as THEY choose,without judgement,without scrunity or criticism.And I HATE when people use the bible/buybull as an excuse for their ignorance.What the fuck do they know?Maybe Jesus dressed up in Mary Magdalene’s clothes and got fucked up the ass by God.
WOW I was with you all the way up to the bible references LOL it is just not in me to speak like that……..I agree with the nobody has the right to judge or scrutinize others simply because they are different
You’ve let it be known,in no uncertain terms,that you’re willing to converse about topics,no matter how taboo,as openly and directly as one can,but it’s “not in you” to speak like that?That’s an interesting contradic(k)tion.
That’s not true at all ed…..there are many topics I will not discuss not here nor on calls because they simply either do not appeal to me or I get an icky feeling about them. I am very open minded but still have that catholic girl in me that cringes when people talk about the bible and Jesus in certain ways….sorry for the cockfusion LOL hope that clears it up
“gotch”ya
If it was a repeat then I saw it last year – either that or I saw something similar where a waiter started yelling at him/her to get out, we don’t think our customers should have to look at a freak like you…that sort of thing. It made me glad I live in NYC where seeing crossdressers and the transgendered in public is so run-of-the-mill that only tourists gawk. They’re behind me in the supermarket check-out, jogging in pink lycra on the treadmill to mine at the gym – it was a normal near-daily occurence and one of the benefits of living right smack in the middle of the theater district. I’ll admit though that hearing a deep masculine voice from a slammin’ gorgeous woman still throws me 🙂
Yes Ms Brianna this was the show…………I didn’t see it the first time around but never the less it had an impact on me……..I have seen the show before and i always was like how the hell can they not say something to them…………but when seeing those drag queens be treated the way they did it really hit home considering the person I am and what I do for a living.
Great Blog Ms Constance. As you know “Imagine” played on my EE profile for a long time, and I also used the pic of me in winter boots standing at “Imagine” after one of our wonderful NYC snowfalls this past winter. So, I think it sums it up for me…..”Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world, I hope someday you join us, and the world will live as one” As one without judgement or prejudiced or malice towards one another. Peace Out, I love John Lennon!
Yes I have seen the picture and heard the song those words are so true and something we all should live by! Thank you for the comment sexy!
Wonderful post, Ms Constance. One doesn’t have to tune in to a TV show to have their heart broken by stories of intolerance and not being accepted. All you have to do is listen to some of the great people that frequent EE, or that call in. What some of our online family has gone through…just because they are “different”…is horrific.
I can’t lay claim to being perfect, because I am extremely intolerant of intolerance. In a perfect world, I’d be able to accept redneck inbred close minded idiots for being redneck inbred close minded idiots the same way I can accept people will all kinds of kinks, orientations, etc. But I am not. Intolerance yanks my chain in a hard, unpleasant way.
Oh,cumon Claire,just because someone marries a cousin they met at a klan rally doesn’t make them close minded idiots.
Stop stereotyping people!!
Thank you Ms Claire for the comment I agree and why the show really struck a cord is because when I saw the scene with the two drag queens I thought of all those I talk to online on the phone and on ee and i was like man that really sucks……….I wish I could tolerate closed minded judgemental people but I simply cant. Were very much alike you and I and maybe thats why i dig you so much!!
I’m so glad you wrote this blog, Constance. It shows that big heart of yours and the way you care about people. So many individuals are offended when others either aren’t like them, agree with their own way of thinking, or can’t be controlled by them. Besides, life is short, why waste it always worrying about the way someone else lives theirs.
great comment wes and not just cause you said I showed my big heart 🙂 I agree 100% with you life is indeed short and there simply is not worth the time it takes to judge and worry about what others are doing with their lives………….thanks for the comment sorry for the delay in reply!
What a wonderful caring post. Thank you Empress Constance. It would be nice to live in world where we can be what we are without judgment or critisism. But that is why we pantyboys and crossdressers love LDW:)
Hi Cindy and thank you for your comment!!! I think all to often I fall into the section of dirty blogger and although I hesitated to put this one up because it was so far off what is normally here it makes me smile to know so many appreciated it and liked seeing my more heart felt caring side. I am so thrilled you pantyboys and cross dressers have found LDW because when the rest of the world shuns you or judges you…..you can find peace and acceptance and understanding with the ladies of LDW.
Ms Constance what a great post!! I too have seen people who was thought to be different treated like that. I am one to speak up and defend people who are being mistreated. I think it’s time for all of us to accept people for who they are. I think the people who mess with other people because of they way they look or dress and too insecure to be who they want to be and that’s too bad for them
Kurt thank you for the comment babe! I am thrilled that your one to speak up I knew I liked you for a reason………….I agree high time for all of us to accept people for who they are and not judge. I also agree those who do mess with other people because of how they look or dress are indeed missing something within themselves and are insecure…..I wish they didn’t act the way they do towards others but hey it starts with just us and we can spread the understanding and acceptance around someday there will be more of us than them!
Kudos Ms. C! I don’t really have much to add, except that I have no doubt that one day our grandchildren will recall such acts of bigotry with disbelief. They will think many in our present society to have been “barbarians” (to turn a Bachmanism on it’s head)for not treating those in alterate lifestyles with dignity, equality and respect.
Thanks mike glad you liked the post….since I am not having kids were gonna say it will be YOUR grand kids that that will look back at us and say such things……….we can only hope the world will change and attitudes and judgments will change. Thank you for your comment 🙂
Very well said, Empress! I’ve no idea why others feel they need to put others down just because they are different from them.
Thanks Magnus…………i think they feel threatened and insecure in who they are because we all know it is easier to make fun of others than it is to look at ones self….thats my theory or one of them anyways LOL
Thank you for bringing this up Ms. Constance. Your big heart and kindness shines through in everything you do. So often people think what can I do, I’m just one person. Or they let fear stop them from doing the right thing, standing up for themselves or others. A truly brave person is unafraid to stand alone against a bully or public opinion and speak their mind. When a person bends down to help another they never stand taller.
Thank you for reading it Ms Layla I agree with what you said totally fear stops most from getting involved and standing p for what is right and god I loved your line “When a person bends down to help another they never stand taller” your amazing thank you
i guess, i’ve always been, not only accepting of & others & getting involved, but sometimes too outspokenly so.
once, while in college, a friend & myself (both vets) were studying in the library. an attractive girl took a seat a few tables away, left her gear & headed for the stacks. people were all over the place, but one guy drifted by a couple of times. minutes later, she approached us to say that her purse had been stolen. we remembered this particular guy & told her to contact the librarian while we started searching for him. within 10 minutes my buddy had him in a choke hold & i had her purse. as i turned, she was running up in tears, begging us to let him go. it was a “test” for their sociology class. i still don’t know if we passed or not!
a couple of years later, i spent a summer as a bartender at a “family” hotel chain location in downtown DC that happened to be at ground zero for the red light district. there were probably ~1,000 streetwalkers of every stripe out within a 4-block radius every night. hotel policy, was “No working girls allowed….period” and they had a security guard in the lobby for that purpose. still, a few of the girls occasionally got by and into the lounge. i decided that i was not part of the morality police. so i laid down my own ground rules. as long as their dress wasn’t *too* over the top, they were welcome to sit at the bar for a cocktail, like any other customer. i wouldn’t tolerate them bothering my customers, but if a customer approached them, it was none of my business. i never had a lick of trouble the entire summer & within 2 weeks, i think every girl in the area knew my first name & would wave & yell “hi” to me.
Thank you coffeeboy for your comment…I am glad to know you and to have you on our sites sharing with us. Very cool story about the library LOL man ohh man was that dude lucky it was not for real!
thank You, Empress. perhaps someday, i’ll have the wherewithall to get to know You better…..although perhaps not as well as Gummi Bear POEC does, lol
Nobody can know me like he does we have a very special Mistress Chastity Orgasm denial bond that just cant be broken nor duplicated…….but you are certainly invited to enjoy me and get to know me in your own special way just like gummy did 🙂
i would imagine enjoying You would be……inescapable. i hope to take You up on that kind offer sooner rather than later, Empress Constance
you have an open invitation babe any time