This is a chastity interview with andy from ruffled sheets he saw my twitter and decided since he is such a huge fan of chastity and orgasm control he would do the interview. I think you will all find something interesting in his answers I know I sure did!

Are you locked in a chastity device right now?

Yes! It’s a steel, spiral device I’ve had for a few months now: It is on my site ruflledsheets.com  I have a few steel devices but this is my favorite so far.

Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

Can I say both? It’s definitely real so technically it’s no longer a fantasy, but I still fantasize about it all the time even though it’s reality now. I always fantasize about going longer each time, for example and about how I’d feel after, say, a year without orgasm.

When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

I need to say both, again! It was probably 90% excitement, 10% fear. There was always the possibility that I’d never be released, no matter how small, which was always in the back of my mind when I thought about giving up control. That was a little scary. The rest was pure excitement. I remember planning how I would broach the subject with my other half. Going through it in my head over and over. It’s exciting even thinking about it now!

Do you currently have a key holder?

Yes. My other half is my key holder. She keeps one set of keys on her and there’s a spare set in a plastic lockbox at home in a safe place. The lockbox has a combination that only she knows. She can give it to me in an emergency but we haven’t had to use it yet. We live together so it’s easy for her to unlock and relock me whenever she so chooses. Not to mention easy for her to keep an eye on me!

How would you describe your ideal Key holder?

For me, my perfect key holder would have similar goals to me. She’d be a huge tease, but strict and wouldn’t cave in, even if I begged for an orgasm. Deep down, I always want to stay chaste but when I’m being teased I often temporarily want to release. My ideal key holder would know that even though I might want to release at that exact moment, in the long run I don’t want to and wouldn’t allow it. My ideal key holder would also enjoy keeping me chaste and teasing me as much as I enjoy being teased. She’d like nothing more than pushing me further than I thought I could ever go. We’d both try to go as long as possible, together. Chastity would be an experience and a journey that we’d both enjoy.

How many chastity devices have you purchased?

Six, so far… My first was the polycarbonate Curve device: My second was the Silicone Bon4:  which can both be seen on my site ruffledsheets.com I have four steel devices. My favorite is the Spiral that I’m wearing right now. It’s comfortable, looks fantastic and there’s no breaking out of it! That said, I’m always on the lookout for more. I’m currently looking at the Mature Metal range as I’d like a completely bespoke, custom fitted device. I just need to choose which one. They all look beautiful!

Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

All the time… I think it’s probably something anyone who enjoys chastity thinks about on a regular basis. There’s a constant state of arousal that you feel when chaste that increases over time. You receive diminishing returns the longer you are chaste, but feelings of arousal and sexual energy still increase slowly. because of this, you’re always thinking “What if I carried on forever…?”

Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event?

Yes. Although I can’t remember my exact age, I was in my mid twenties. Teasing, orgasm denial, chastity had all been fantasies for a while but I’d never really gone any further. Like most, I used to just fantasize about them and that was that. I’d never really abstained from orgasm for longer than a day or so. I enjoyed the idea of being denied, but that was enough, initially. I didn’t need to actually experience it. Like all fantasies though, soon I wanted more. I eventually decided to abstain from orgasm for two weeks. It wasn’t easy, but it felt amazing! I couldn’t believe how good it felt after the difficult first few days. It was then that I realized “I actually have to do this.”

What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

45 days. I know it’s not that long, particularly when compared to some of the guys who comment on your blog, but I’m working on it! It’s not my decision, you see, and my other half enjoys watching me orgasm. After 45 days I was ready to carry on and on, but it’s not for me to decide, which I’m happy with. A major part of chastity is the loss of control, even if it means being made to orgasm sooner than I might want. Typically, I orgasm every 3 to 4 weeks but my goal is to reduce that to every 3 to 4 months. Wish me luck!

When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?

Always! I still masturbate of course, when I’m unlocked, but I never orgasm. To be honest, I wouldn’t even be able to tell you the last time I reached orgasm on my own. It’s only ever with my partner. Chastity using a device is wonderful, but there are times when teasing can be more fun when unlocked, providing you both have enough self discipline! I also have to unlock regularly as I play lots of sports that wouldn’t be possible in a device. During these times though I just unlock, play, shower then relock.

When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?

100%. It’s impossible not too when your goal is to reach the edge of orgasm and not actually release. Having said that, I guess I tend to fantasize more about ‘tease and denial’ than I do about pure chastity. Usually I fantasize about being teased and edged over and over and imagine that I’ve already gone months without release.

What did it feel like the first time be be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?

Wonderful! I remember buying my first device online and receiving it in the post. I’d already spoken to my other half At this point and we’d agreed to buy one. I remember working from home so I could accept the delivery and being so excited to try it out. I was actually so excited at the time that I couldn’t put it on at first…! It was my Curve, a polycarbonate device that’s solid and allows for no touching or stimulation. I tried it on and loved it. It had been something I’d desired for so long, I couldn’t believe I finally owned my own device. Trying it on was only the first part, though. Actually locking it in place and handing over the key is something different altogether. For me, it was fulfilling a long held fantasy. I remember feeling excited that I was finally there but also relaxed, knowing that I no longer had to worry about self discipline in order to stay chaste.

It did feel strange, knowing I no longer had even basic access to my penis. Aside from masturbation, there were lots of times when i was used to feeling different sensations on my penis but now don’t experience anything. There are the obvious activities like showering and going to the bathroom but there are the not so obvious activities too. A simple thing like putting on underwear feels completely different. I didn’t realize how I was so used to feeling the material gently slide over my penis and how good it felt! Being locked in a device doesn’t just deny you of orgasms and becoming erect, it denies you of almost all other sensations too, which you realize pretty quickly the first time you become locked! Of course you can buy devices that allow for a certain amount of stimulation. Silicone devices, for example, transmit touch very effectively and allow the user to feel almost everything when wearing them. For me though, I prefer to be locked in something more rigid as it all adds to the fun.

Something else that I didn’t realize before I first became locked is how my mind automatically became focused on my key holder whenever I became aroused. If someone is unlocked, even if they’re abstaining, they can become erect and fantasize about whatever or whoever they want to, very easily. When they’re locked, whenever they become remotely aroused, they instantly feel their device clamped around their penis which reminds them of their key holder. It makes fantasizing about anyone or anything else impossible! If you keep someone locked and hold their keys, you’ll be the only one they can think about, whether they like it or not…!

How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?

First and foremost, it’s exciting! There are a whole host of other emotions involved, though, emotions that I wouldn’t perhaps have thought about, initially. For example, it feels comforting to know that someone cares enough about me to take control. It’s also relaxing to know I no longer need to worry or even think about my own release. Ironically, it’s also a huge turn on… But that just makes it more fun. There are inevitably plateaus and times when I might feel I’ve had enough but these always pass. I know deep down I want to go longer and further. Ultimately the pleasure I receive far outweighs anything else I may feel from time to time.

This interview was very in depth and I think fascinating if you want to know more about andy you can check him out on his blog where he reviews sex toys and of course chastity devices at ruffledsheets.com.

If your interested in doing a chastity interview with me please feel free to contact me at constance@enchantrixempire.com

I am stating a brand new project and it is all about chastity! I will be interviewing volunteers on their views of chastity, look for a new interview every week right here!

This interview was with my very own chastity pet Gummy from Texas

1. Are you locked in a chastity device right now?

YES! I am in a Mature Metal Jail bird custom fit!

2. Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

It used to be fantasy until I found the mistress I could trust and these days it is all real!

3. Do you currently have a key holder?

Yes she is long distance but we have overcome the long distance obstacles, through web cam and daily contact.

4. How would you describe your ideal Key Holder?

She is trustworthy, playful, harsh when I need it, no nonsense, and has a deep trust in me but also has some skepticism so she makes me go through the steps to ensure she is confident in knowing I am 100 % secure and locked up. She has to be attentive and not neglectful….and the biggest quality she has to be female!!!!!

 5. How many chastity devices have you purchased?

More than 5 but less than ten~ I went from one device to the next because I wanted to feel more secure and for it to be better………I liked all of them but something always made me turn against them. For instance one I really enjoyed was a metal one that used my piercing to lock my cock but I was allergic to the metal.

6. Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

YES!!!! In fact I am currently at day number 511 of no orgasms! Will it go on forever I am not sure that is up to my key holder who I trust has my best interest at heart.

7. Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event? 

 I read an article in variations magazine…I didn’t even know what orgasm control or chastity was but when I read that article about a Lady who locked up her boyfriend it touched something in my soul and I just knew it was something I needed to explore more.

 8. What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

511 days previous to this it was 170 days and I did that twice

9. When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?

Yes my key holder decides when and if I ever cum

10. When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?

I cannot masturbate and have not been able to freely in almost a year. Previous to being locked up I would edge only and chastity was at least 50% of the time what I was thinking about while stroking.

11. When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

Both, it took me a long time to build up trust and in the beginning there was too much fright but once I found the right key holder my fears were set aside and now I cannot believe I lived without it so long

12. What did it feel like the first time be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?

This is going to sound odd but it was liberating I had absolutely no control so I was free to let my mind roam and go and not worry about the supposed goal of achieving an orgasm.

13. How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?

I love the mystery of not knowing and the security of knowing my key holder is in charge of it all and I never try to sway her in her decision it is totally up to her and I have no clue and I love that!

I have already gotten a ton of interest in these interviews and have several done but I would love to hear from all types of chastity lovers…..If you would like to do a chastity interview with me please contact me at constance@enchantrixempire.com

I adore sissy girls and my very special sissy girl Miranda surprised me with a holiday treat. As many of you know I have written about Miranda many times, she is simply a very special sissy for me because she makes it all about her Mistress!

Sissy Girl Dresses for the Occasion

Miranda of course, had to dress for the occasion and since she was my holiday treat she wore a sheer red baby doll with tiny sheer red thongs that just looked amazing on her sissy body. When I get to gaze down upon her in such a sweet sexy outfit I get all tingly and excited because I know what is coming next!

Body Worship from my Sissy

Miranda has an amazing tongue and just knows exactly how to get her phone sex mistress’ motor going. She uses her tongue to worship my body; every inch of it from my pretty little toes all the way up to my cute nose. I especially like when she stops and licks my ass and pussy because she never fails to get her mistress off multiple times!!

Sissy gets a treat from her Mistress

Now normally I would not allow a sissy to have sex with me but since it was such a surprise to hear from her and she did such an amazing job worshiping her mistress I decided to rock her sissy girl world! Yes I actually allowed her sissy clit to be inside me, but of course I was in full control; riding her making her moan and groan at such a delightful treat. Needless to say we were both left breathless and spent by the end of our session…..ahhh but the memory of that shall last a very long time!

It is such a powerfully erotic and poignant place for a cuckold or any submissive to be. As a cuckold kneels naked before his Mistress, regardless if she is fully clothed or scantily attired, the feelings of surrender, belonging, vulnerability, of being controlled, and of being put in one’s place, a cuckold feels can be overwhelming.

Whether it is the first time in “Her” presence as she points to the ground and commands you to “Kneel Cuck!”, or the thousandth time that your legs buckle to take your place at your Goddesses feet, it is perhaps the ultimate symbol of a cuckold’s submission. Especially, in those moments when a cuckold finds himself naked at her door awaiting his Goddesses return from a date….. or, even more appropriately, kneeling naked and chained at the foot of her bed as a Real Man takes her…..awaiting that cream pie!

A properly trained submissive knows that on his knees is where he belongs. Gazing (only when permitted) upward at the Goddess he adores. Nothing compares to feeling the serenity and humility of being at her feet, of basking in her beauty and scent. True submissives long for their Goddess to be standing above them, hands on her hips, taking in her confident slightly arrogant smile. She knows she owns you!  And a kneeling submissive, conversely, is blissfully aware that he is her owned and cherished pet.

What commands will follow? Perhaps it will be to fetch her drink? Perhaps just stay there on your knees for as long as it pleases her or………..If you’re VERY lucky to be allowed to worship her feet, her ass or pussy while still kneeling?

It should be every submissive New Year’s resolution to spend more time on their knees for their Mistresses pleasure…………….Any of you boys what to drop to your knees for this Goddess?

HI everyone I just wanted to share again with all of you a couple of audios I did as treats a couple of years ago…so enjoy and Happy Holidays everyone!!!

**to hear them play just click the name**

Dear Santa

What do you want for Christmas

We all know I enjoy cum eating men and my latest caller has made it to my favorites list! I first met this cum eater when he sent in one of my pre session questionnaires right here from my blog. He shared with me how he would like a session to go and although his focus was not on the cum eating part, it is indeed what stuck out in my mind!

The Session Begins

Tease and Denial is what he said he wanted but he wanted me to make him admit a few things before allowing him to cum…..I am such a fan of prying those kinky secrets out of all of you that I was totally down and ready to play!

Turns out I didn’t have to wait till the end of the call for him so show his true colors. The mere mention of him being a cock sucker sent out a moan that could only come from touching a sweet spot in someone’s mind. In fact he was moaning most of the time I was talking about him sucking cock and eating cum…..such an easy slut!

I did not focus on just the cum eating. I threw in a bit of light cbt to change the pace, having him spank his balls while he jerked off for me. He let out some painful whimpers but his cock remained rock hard the whole time, which again shows me that he was a very eager horny slut. I then had him spank his ass and tweak his nipples just for my amusement before having him focus on edging that cock some more.

His Confession

He confessed to me half way through the session that he wanted to be anything I wanted including my little sissy fag slut! Ohh we all know how I love sissy fags so I of course jumped at the thought of having him service several of my well endowed friends, which was again met with that horny moan letting me know I again hit on that sweet spot in his horny mind. I just love doing that to men making them confess and hearing what really gets them excited through their moans and groans of pleasure!!!

Time to eat that cum

He told me how close he was so I had him get into the Cum eating  position and get ready to shoot that load right into his cum eating cock sucking lips……ohh and he did not disappoint me! He got right into position and seconds later was getting a mouth full of cum!!! I laughed at him when I saw it clinging to his lips…then he opened his mouth showing me that creamy cum and when I said SWALLOW he did as he made a funny face. What happened next is what sparked the title for this blog…he said it smells…I said what smells…he said my breath! I laughed so hard I said that’s it from now on you will be known as cum breath!!!! Oh and for a bit more fun for me and humiliation for him I told him he had to stay with cum breath the rest of the day…no brushing your teeth and no rinsing your mouth!!

Thanks cum breath for showing your mistress a great time!! I look forward to our next encounter!!

What Cum Breath had to say about our session.

  When i was about to do the session i was very nervous and excited. When we started the session your confident dominant voice turned me on so much and Making my cock rock hard. i loved how you push me to my limits. You made me close to cumming multiple times. Every time you make me close to cumming,  i fall deeper into your will more and more. Then you made me taste me precum. I hesitated at first because i never tried it. But you were right there telling me to lick it up for your mistress. When i was close again to cum for the last time you made me say ill suck cock for my mistress. at that point i’d do anything she said. After i said that she made me put my legs over my face and eat my load. I did it without hesitation. i kept the huge load in my mouth for a bit then swallowed when she demanded me too. Which i never doing planned with her in the first place. After that, she gave me an assignment not to brush my teeth. The cum breath was strong i could smell it. I went to a store an hour later and saw my friend about to leave the parking lot and he went up to talk to me. I tried not talking to him close and at his face so he couldn’t smell my breath. When i was done talking to him i was thinking what are the odds of that in this town. Hopefully the rest of the day i won’t get caught with this cum breath.

I just love how kinky and sexy Miss Constance is.  She pushed me to the limits and i loved it!

I have recently hit a few very big milestones with a couple of my long term clients and of course to help celebrate and mark such momentous occasions I have blogged about them, the blogs got many amazing comments which leads me to this very blog. Long term is very doable even when it is phone sex that is if you find the right woman for you.

Long term means Commitment

For any type of a long term relationship to work vanilla or D/s it takes commitment and not just on the part of the man but it also takes commitment from the woman as well, especially when it comes to phone relationships. It is not easy to be thousands of miles away from the one you’re committed to so to keep that bond strong and real it takes time and effort. Does this type of commitment happen over night or easily hell NO, it takes time and interaction it takes proving yourself to me and vice versa in many ways…….funny for me to say as a Mistress that I have to prove myself to those looking for long term but it is true……how do I prove myself? To put it simply by being hands on from start to finish and everything in between I am a hands on phone Mistress. I look at it like this.. how is someone going to trust me and be able to commit themselves to me if I never reply to mails or I am never around except for the phone session….that is no way to build long term anything and I pride myself in breaking that mold of the typical phone sex girl that is in it for the call and that’s all.

Kinks and Long Term

There are many types of kinks we all enjoy but some lend themselves to becoming a long term relationship such as orgasm denial and chastity…how can I lock someone’s cock up claim it as my own if I never speak or communicate with the person or even worse if I disappear for weeks at a time………..simply put I can NOT. As much as many are committed to giving up their freedom for cock control, I am just as committed to being there every step of the way guiding and helping them for better or worse. With every kink and every relationship there are ups and downs whether it be a cuckold or a sissy slut and there is a sense of comfort and security knowing that when you do have those downs your Mistress will still be there for you, and not just stop speaking to you because it was all too much. I am living proof that having a long term kink relationship is indeed possible and enjoyable.

Is Long Term for you?

Are you looking for a connection someone who truly is there and gets you and your needs….do you want to lean on this person for kink and other life issues? Do you find yourself just wanting to know someone is there and happy to be there no strings attached? Well if you answered yes to these things than perhaps a long term phone mistress is just what you need. If your more of the type who wants to try every flavor several times that’s okay too that’s why there are so many choices out there…..just know that if you ever wanted more or needed more it is possible.

A recent session has me thinking wow, maybe I do enjoy a bit of pain inflicting more so than I ever thought I would! I have always said I am not the mean mistress type and that the whole pain aspect of domination simply is not a turn on…….but I am rethinking that because the session I had with “B” turned me on, invigorated me and well was plain old hot!!!!

His Pain My Pleasure

So this client is into a bit of CBT and pain, but only when it pleases a woman.  We had the time and day set out to do our first long session and it just so happened it was on my birthday.  So for whatever reason I jumped right into it having him spank his ass with a wooden spoon 38 times and between each whack on the ass he had to wish me a happy birthday! Something happened right about the 20th smack -  his ass was bright red and my panties were moist! I laughed and enjoyed his pain like I never have before with others….could it be I actually liked inflicting pain on him?  Could it be that I am not as sensual as I first thought and have much more than just a little wicked side?

More pain and even more pleasure

I found myself inflicting more and more pain upon this willing submissive man and he never once complained from the hair brush to his ass and balls to the hot wax dripped on some very sensitive areas! The redder his ass and balls got the wetter I got…I found myself more than just amused and entertained; I found myself actually turned on, needing and wanting more! He was beginning to become breathless and grunting and groaning as I gave him his next instructions jerking off with an ice cube…..I then teased him about being so horny but in pain and unable to get fully erect because of the ice he was stroking with…talk about a cock tease and tease and denial.  He was put through it all!!

My eyes are opened to new things

What is this whole blog post about? Well here is the thing, I have said time and time again the pain aspect does not do anything for me…but obviously now I am seeing and feeling differently about it…perhaps it was him or the fact it was my birthday that I was so excited to cause him pain…whatever it is I cannot deny the fact I actually not only enjoyed this pain session but really got turned on by it! Is this all there is for him and I? Of course not because this is just one side of many that I have…it just so happens it is a side of me I never knew existed in this way until now. Just like chastity and orgasm denial I never knew I would enjoy it until that one special client came along and I found myself addicted to it…I am amazed once again that I am forever evolving, my likes and dislikes are forever changing and I look forward to what the next thing might be that changes with me and my kink life style.

Where? Live in our adult chat room and on cock radio!
When? Sunday October 30th from 6pm till 12am Eastern
Why? Because we want to party!!!!!
Theme: Rocky Horror

Are you ready to celebrate one of our favorite holidays here at Enchantrix Empire/LDW? The sexy ladies have spooked up some fun for everyone and want you all to join us as we celebrate Halloween!!! We are planning 6 hours of cock radio, starting at 6pm and going all the way to the witching hour at 12am. During the 6 hours of cock radio you will also be hanging out with some of the sexiest women on the planet right in our adult chat room.

Cock Radio Schedule for the event

6pm Tia
7pm Vivian
8pm Gemma
9pm Delia
10pm Cassidy
11pm Ann

How you can get involved!

Of course we would not have an event that didn’t involve all of our favorite kinksters having a chance to get involved in the fun and maybe even win some cool prizes!

1} Costume contest~ This is a full body costume not just your penis or a pumpkin we want to see your creativity so come up with a costume and post it in our Halloween group  over on the Enchantrix Empire (no below the waist nudity please) and the ladies of LDW will pick a first, second and third place winner. All pictures must be posted in the group by 10-29-11. ***ONE ENTRY PER PERSON**

Prizes will be as follows:

First place: 1 ~ 10 minute call with one of the prize mistresses
Second place: 1  ~10 minute text session with one of the prize mistresses
Third place: 1~ 5 minute audio from one of the prize mistresses.

2} Enter the Halloween themed erotic writing contest. This is a fun creative way for you all to take those hot erotic writing skills we know you have and spin us a sexy spooky Halloween tale. To enter all you have to do is write an erotic Halloween story no less than 250 words and post it in our Halloween group  on the Empire. *note these stories may be posted on our blog site* Please post your story no later than 10-29-2011. Just like the costume contest the ladies of Enchantrix/LDW will be the ones voting for the winner. ***ONE ENTRY PER PERSON**

Prizes will be as follows:

First place: 1 ~ 10 minute call with one of the prize mistresses
Second place: 1  ~10 minute text session with one of the prize mistresses
Third place: 1~ 5 minute audio from one of the prize mistresses.

Prize Mistresses

Here is the list of all the ladies who are on the prize list, each winner will notify me of which lady they would like to get their prize from…..this will be on a first come first serve basis, because once the lady has been chosen by a winner, her name for that prize will be taken off the list and the other winners will choose from the remaining available ladies on the list.

The following ladies are First place winners choices for the 10 minute phone sex call.

Cassidy
Sierra
Molly
Constance
Hunter
Claire
Casey
Christine

The following ladies are the Second place winners choices for the 10 minute Sexy texting session.

Cassidy
Sierra
Molly
Constance
Hunter
Claire
Casey
Ivy
Kaitlyn

The following ladies are the Third place winners choices for the 5 minute custom audio

Ivy
Casey
Violet
Hunter
Constance
Sierra
Cassidy
Layla

Save the date!

So there are all the details you need to join the party and to celebrate Halloween with the sexiest femdoms on the planet! If you have any questions please feel free to mail me at Constance@Enchantrixempire.com