Are you locked in a chastity device right now?
No, I don’t currently own a device having got rid of the ones I owned I threw them out Just on a whim. I sometimes doubt it I’m submissive enough for chastity so threw them out. Regret it now though

Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

Mostly fantasy though I have dabbled in short term real. Only online, I struggled badly

Empress Constance: why did you struggle badly?
During normal everyday things. I’d feel ashamed and embarrassed about being locked so would unlock and not use device for a while. Its during these lows I got rid of the devices.

When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

Both LOL It excited me as it’s what I think I want and frightens me that I will be discovered or that it restricts my life in other ways. As my relationship with my key holders where online it was limited and not really that real

Do you currently have a keyholder?

No not at the moment

How would you describe your ideal Keyholder?

Someone real lol. Ideally I’d like a female led relationship with chastity. So really I’d look for a dominant, caring girl with a sense of humor. Not sure I could do the online thing again

How many chastity devices have you purchased?

3. The cb6k, cb2k and the bon4

Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

I’ve never really gotten to that stage where it might be a viable option, so no

Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event?

I can’t really pin point it no. Just when looking on internet at bdsm I discovered it. Joined a few forums and got chatting to people. I find that there tends to be less fakes involved in the chastity forums than sites like collar me etc

What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

Think about 10 days lol

When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?

sometimes yes but it’s pretty half hearted attempts. Nothing that serious

When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?

Depends on what I’ve seen etc probably at least 50 though

What did it feel like the first time to be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?

It was exciting and then a bit scary as it was sore and I was worried I would do damage. Think I lasted about 4 hours or something…Wasn’t really sore it just the normal erection pain. That’s the thing I’ve never really felt that. Most of the times I’ve locked for people has been with tags or trust so in reality I could cum if I wanted. Only once I send the key away and I picked the lock to take off.

How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?

Well I’ve never really been in a position where I’ve been completely helpless. I’ve always had the plastic lock or the key. So I’ve missed out on that sensation all together

I am really enjoying seeing all the many sides chastity has for each individual person…if you would like to do a chastity interview with me please contact me at Constance@enchantrixempire.com

Look for a post later this week from a special guest blogger!!

This is another chastity interview that Ryan was so kind to do for me. I am finding it more and more interesting the takes on chastity and what it means for all types of orgasm denial lovers…either long term or short term there is something interesting in them all.

 Are you locked in a chastity device right now?

No, I am not currently locked in chastity. I did a 3 week run with Ms Violet recently but we’ve decided to explore something different right now.

 Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

Real

When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

It excites me very much to turn control of my orgasms over to someone else.

Do you currently have a keyholder?

I guess Ms Violet would still be considered my keyholder. Although we currently aren’t using chastity we are still including orgasm denial/control so I guess you could still call her a keyholder.

 How would you describe your ideal Keyholder?

I’ve never been good at describing my ideal anything. I guess for starters my ideal keyholder would be local to me. As much fun as I enjoy my time with Ms Violet on the phone, I would love to find the right person locally. I think ideally I would want my keyholder to be more than just my keyholder. I would want her to be the most important thing in my life and hope that I would be that in hers as well.

 How many chastity devices have you purchased?

1 – A cb3000

Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

Yes, but I don’t think this is something I could see myself doing presently. There are too many other things that I enjoy or think I may enjoy that chastity prevents or severely limits what can be done. Maybe after I’ve had some time to explore all of those then I may be ready to move on to permanent chastity.

 Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event?

Not really. I had found a website ran by a domme who offered “trainings” periodically. Generally chastity was included as a part of those so while I had a few fantasies involving chastity prior to that it was those that got me to buy my first, and so far only, chastity device. It was then a blog post by Ms. Violet that got me really excited to try chastity again, this time with a little more personal attention.

 What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

A little over 3 weeks

 When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?

Until recently I hadn’t. But since deciding to try something else other then chastity with Ms Violet I’ve been doing stroking and edging sessions daily but no orgams. Unfortunately, I’m still not too adept at feeling the point where I should stop and have resulted in a handful of ruined orgams over the last couple of weeks.

When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?

It’s not something that is usually high on my list for masturbating, not sure why. It’s probably less than 10% probably because I just don’t think about it enough. When I do think about

What did it feel like the first time be be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?

I love giving up control so while there was a little bit of fear it was very exciting. Was also a little painful as my cock instantly tried to get hard inside of its cage.

How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?

This is by far my favorite part of chastity play. As I said, I enjoy giving up control and what more control can I give up but when I’ll be able to have an orgasm.

If your interested in doing a chastity interview with me please feel free to contact me at constance@enchantrixempire.com

This is a chastity interview with andy from ruffled sheets he saw my twitter and decided since he is such a huge fan of chastity and orgasm control he would do the interview. I think you will all find something interesting in his answers I know I sure did!

Are you locked in a chastity device right now?

Yes! It’s a steel, spiral device I’ve had for a few months now: It is on my site ruflledsheets.com  I have a few steel devices but this is my favorite so far.

Is most of your chastity play real, or fantasy?

Can I say both? It’s definitely real so technically it’s no longer a fantasy, but I still fantasize about it all the time even though it’s reality now. I always fantasize about going longer each time, for example and about how I’d feel after, say, a year without orgasm.

When you considered giving orgasm control over to someone did it excite you or frighten you?

I need to say both, again! It was probably 90% excitement, 10% fear. There was always the possibility that I’d never be released, no matter how small, which was always in the back of my mind when I thought about giving up control. That was a little scary. The rest was pure excitement. I remember planning how I would broach the subject with my other half. Going through it in my head over and over. It’s exciting even thinking about it now!

Do you currently have a key holder?

Yes. My other half is my key holder. She keeps one set of keys on her and there’s a spare set in a plastic lockbox at home in a safe place. The lockbox has a combination that only she knows. She can give it to me in an emergency but we haven’t had to use it yet. We live together so it’s easy for her to unlock and relock me whenever she so chooses. Not to mention easy for her to keep an eye on me!

How would you describe your ideal Key holder?

For me, my perfect key holder would have similar goals to me. She’d be a huge tease, but strict and wouldn’t cave in, even if I begged for an orgasm. Deep down, I always want to stay chaste but when I’m being teased I often temporarily want to release. My ideal key holder would know that even though I might want to release at that exact moment, in the long run I don’t want to and wouldn’t allow it. My ideal key holder would also enjoy keeping me chaste and teasing me as much as I enjoy being teased. She’d like nothing more than pushing me further than I thought I could ever go. We’d both try to go as long as possible, together. Chastity would be an experience and a journey that we’d both enjoy.

How many chastity devices have you purchased?

Six, so far… My first was the polycarbonate Curve device: My second was the Silicone Bon4:  which can both be seen on my site ruffledsheets.com I have four steel devices. My favorite is the Spiral that I’m wearing right now. It’s comfortable, looks fantastic and there’s no breaking out of it! That said, I’m always on the lookout for more. I’m currently looking at the Mature Metal range as I’d like a completely bespoke, custom fitted device. I just need to choose which one. They all look beautiful!

Ever consider complete and permanent chastity with no hope of release?

All the time… I think it’s probably something anyone who enjoys chastity thinks about on a regular basis. There’s a constant state of arousal that you feel when chaste that increases over time. You receive diminishing returns the longer you are chaste, but feelings of arousal and sexual energy still increase slowly. because of this, you’re always thinking “What if I carried on forever…?”

Was there a specific point in your life when you suddenly realized that chastity was the way to go and what was that event?

Yes. Although I can’t remember my exact age, I was in my mid twenties. Teasing, orgasm denial, chastity had all been fantasies for a while but I’d never really gone any further. Like most, I used to just fantasize about them and that was that. I’d never really abstained from orgasm for longer than a day or so. I enjoyed the idea of being denied, but that was enough, initially. I didn’t need to actually experience it. Like all fantasies though, soon I wanted more. I eventually decided to abstain from orgasm for two weeks. It wasn’t easy, but it felt amazing! I couldn’t believe how good it felt after the difficult first few days. It was then that I realized “I actually have to do this.”

What is the longest time period you have ever gone between orgasms?

45 days. I know it’s not that long, particularly when compared to some of the guys who comment on your blog, but I’m working on it! It’s not my decision, you see, and my other half enjoys watching me orgasm. After 45 days I was ready to carry on and on, but it’s not for me to decide, which I’m happy with. A major part of chastity is the loss of control, even if it means being made to orgasm sooner than I might want. Typically, I orgasm every 3 to 4 weeks but my goal is to reduce that to every 3 to 4 months. Wish me luck!

When you aren’t locked up, do you practice orgasm denial?

Always! I still masturbate of course, when I’m unlocked, but I never orgasm. To be honest, I wouldn’t even be able to tell you the last time I reached orgasm on my own. It’s only ever with my partner. Chastity using a device is wonderful, but there are times when teasing can be more fun when unlocked, providing you both have enough self discipline! I also have to unlock regularly as I play lots of sports that wouldn’t be possible in a device. During these times though I just unlock, play, shower then relock.

When you are alone and masturbating, what percentage of the time would you say you think or fantasize about chastity?

100%. It’s impossible not too when your goal is to reach the edge of orgasm and not actually release. Having said that, I guess I tend to fantasize more about ‘tease and denial’ than I do about pure chastity. Usually I fantasize about being teased and edged over and over and imagine that I’ve already gone months without release.

What did it feel like the first time be be locked and realize you can no longer touch your penis whenever you wanted to?

Wonderful! I remember buying my first device online and receiving it in the post. I’d already spoken to my other half At this point and we’d agreed to buy one. I remember working from home so I could accept the delivery and being so excited to try it out. I was actually so excited at the time that I couldn’t put it on at first…! It was my Curve, a polycarbonate device that’s solid and allows for no touching or stimulation. I tried it on and loved it. It had been something I’d desired for so long, I couldn’t believe I finally owned my own device. Trying it on was only the first part, though. Actually locking it in place and handing over the key is something different altogether. For me, it was fulfilling a long held fantasy. I remember feeling excited that I was finally there but also relaxed, knowing that I no longer had to worry about self discipline in order to stay chaste.

It did feel strange, knowing I no longer had even basic access to my penis. Aside from masturbation, there were lots of times when i was used to feeling different sensations on my penis but now don’t experience anything. There are the obvious activities like showering and going to the bathroom but there are the not so obvious activities too. A simple thing like putting on underwear feels completely different. I didn’t realize how I was so used to feeling the material gently slide over my penis and how good it felt! Being locked in a device doesn’t just deny you of orgasms and becoming erect, it denies you of almost all other sensations too, which you realize pretty quickly the first time you become locked! Of course you can buy devices that allow for a certain amount of stimulation. Silicone devices, for example, transmit touch very effectively and allow the user to feel almost everything when wearing them. For me though, I prefer to be locked in something more rigid as it all adds to the fun.

Something else that I didn’t realize before I first became locked is how my mind automatically became focused on my key holder whenever I became aroused. If someone is unlocked, even if they’re abstaining, they can become erect and fantasize about whatever or whoever they want to, very easily. When they’re locked, whenever they become remotely aroused, they instantly feel their device clamped around their penis which reminds them of their key holder. It makes fantasizing about anyone or anything else impossible! If you keep someone locked and hold their keys, you’ll be the only one they can think about, whether they like it or not…!

How does it feel to not know when you will be granted an orgasm?

First and foremost, it’s exciting! There are a whole host of other emotions involved, though, emotions that I wouldn’t perhaps have thought about, initially. For example, it feels comforting to know that someone cares enough about me to take control. It’s also relaxing to know I no longer need to worry or even think about my own release. Ironically, it’s also a huge turn on… But that just makes it more fun. There are inevitably plateaus and times when I might feel I’ve had enough but these always pass. I know deep down I want to go longer and further. Ultimately the pleasure I receive far outweighs anything else I may feel from time to time.

This interview was very in depth and I think fascinating if you want to know more about andy you can check him out on his blog where he reviews sex toys and of course chastity devices at ruffledsheets.com.

If your interested in doing a chastity interview with me please feel free to contact me at constance@enchantrixempire.com

Many of you know I am a huge fan of cuckolds and orgasm control and yes even the denial of orgasms. Today starts a new chapter for my cuckold and it will increase the amount of control I have over his ongoing denial……a new chapter begins and it could not make me happier!

Cuckolds Denial

So for over a year now I have been in control of my cuckold who will do anything to please his mistress going above and beyond for me every chance he gets. He knows how I feel about cuckold men and that they don’t deserve to “pretend” to be a real man with me or anyone and thus they are denied the pleasures of being inside of a woman……and of course never cumming inside of a woman. My long time cuck has now gone 122 days without being inside of a woman and he will continue that type of denial for the foreseeable future.

Taking Control of his Orgasms

As of today I have stepped up my control over my cuckold up until this point he was still allowed to masturbate and cum any time he wished…just never allowed to fuck like a real man. He approached me with this new form of denial and I was totally for gaining more control over him. In the past we have tried short term denial with him and it led to a very miserable cuck and Mistress, but the new plan will be just what I need to take more control without him or I being miserable.

His new guidelines for his orgasm control

1} He has 15 orgasms only a month…..cutting his normal total in half
2} He is allowed 2 Free Orgasms out of that 15 where he does not need my permission
3} In order to get permission he must post on the Enchantrix Empire asking for permission thus exposing himself as totally submissive to me and showing everyone the control I have over his orgasms.
4} if he has an unauthorized orgasm for any reason he loses 5 of his monthly allotted 15 orgasms.

For a man who is used to being able to cum every day by his own hand this is going to be a challenge one I know I am looking forward to. This is going to make him even more submissive to his Mistress and give me the total control I crave.

Seeking Orgasm control Or Cuckold phone sex?

If you’re looking to explore you own cuckold fantasy   then you have found your cuckold Mistress! Not all cuckolds are like the one I described in this blog post there are many different cuckold fantasies we can explore together, send me an e-mail at constance@enchantrixempire.com or message me on yahoo EmpressConstance to discuss just what type of cuckold fantasy you would like. If you’re in need of some cock control or orgasm control and yes if you even looking for orgasm denial then you have met the woman strong enough to control and deny your orgasms. Contact me by the above mentioned means  so we can work out your very own plan for complete orgasm control.

Many of you have asked me to take control of your cocks and even your orgasms, well to begin the new year off on a fresh start I am asking all of you to make some New Year’s resolutions to me.  I have chosen 10 things for you to pick from and I want you to choose 5…..Now we can  start the New Year off right with some stroking  and orgasm control !

Top Ten New Year’s Resolutions for My Stroker Boys

(Pick any 5) and email the resolutions to me Constance@enchantrixempire.com  so that I can hold you accountable throughout the year.

1. I resolve to masturbate while at the computer looking at Empress Constance’s pictures daily, but not cumming.

2. I resolve To NEVER cum unless I am in a phone sex session with Empress Constance, and have her permission

3. I resolve to say when I am cumming “Thank you Empress Constance.”

4. I resolve to call Empress Constance at least weekly

5. I resolve that if I am given permission to jerk off and cum that I will only do so once a week, if I cum by accident or even on purpose more than once a week without Empress Constance I will then turn over all control of when I get to orgasm to Empress Constance.

6. I resolve to say every day ten times, “Empress Constance owns my cock.”

7. I resolve to send presents on Valentine’s Day (Feb 14), National Female Domination day (July 24), Empress Constance’s Birthday (Sept 22), and Christmas (Dec 25)

8. I resolve to Phone Empress Constance at least once monthly for a ruined orgasm.

9. I resolve to will be totally naked when I do call and ask permission before I can touch myself and only do so when given permission.

10. I resolve to ask Empress Constance for discipline when I’ve disobeyed any of my resolutions.

Well my horny stroker boys were you able to choose 5 resolutions? If you feel as if these are not for you see me and we will come up with your very own New Years  Tease/denial and Guided Masturbation plan.

My New Year’s resolution is to control as many cocks as possible, to deny my horny denial sluts and to tease and torment my edging boys until they can’t take anymore and beg and plead for release!

HAPPY NEW YEARS EVERYONE!!!
Here is to a year filled with cock stroking and Goddess Worship!!!