Happy Hump Day Everyone! I hope you all enjoy this week’s edition of Ask Mistress, my weekly post with the questions you all send in to me and my thoughts/answers to them. If you would like to submit your own question, kinky or vanilla, please do so by using the tab on my blog title Ask Ms Constance.
Dear Mistress:
I am starting a FML relationship with my guy. I have read some stuff about it, but do you have any word of wisdom for a beginner. He is into the idea but is a very dominating person. However the aspect of being dominating is extremely intriguing and a turn on for him. How do I coax him to give up that innate dominance he will have.
I think the only advice I have for you is to communicate clearly what you both plan to get out of this. The fact he wants this means he has already given up some of that control. Tell him to be open minded and to truly let go and let you take control to get the full experience, otherwise, what is the point in doing it at all? Good Luck!
Dear Mistress:
I feel as though there is this implicit sense that a tiny or small endowed guy has that he needs to try to “make it up” to a female if he is lucky enough to come in contact with one who let’s this issue go – yet he has to try his best to make it up to her. Do you know of circumstances where this is on the table or on the up and up – where a woman is “up front” about this – meaning you need to do things for me or buy things for me or generally do what I say and want – because or partly because of your tiny endowment? I feel like that happens but do not know if it is always ‘up front’?
I think I have covered this small endowment thing a billion times on my ask Mistress posts…..with that said, yes I do know of it happening in many ways. The man with the tiny penis is trying to do what he can to make her happy in any way he has to because he knows sexually he is lacking.
Dear Mistress:
What is your favorite way to mentally seduce someone?
Simple answer: by being myself. I have always been someone easy to talk to, easy to share with, and by doing so, it creates a bit of a bond which leads to total trust and willingness to want to be with me in whatever way….I don’t know if I set out to do such things. It just happens by me simply being me.
Dear Mistress:
In your experience, how common is the use of chastity cages in FLR’s? It seems to me it is becoming much more common both in terms of submissive’s who desire to be locked up and with Women who desire that level of ultimate control. Still, since it is an under the radar fetish, in that most folks wouldn’t want it to be known that they are walking around locked up under their suits (and maybe under our panties too), i really have no idea how frequent, or rare, chastity is. So….How many men do have locked up, how many of us chastity slaves do you think are out there and do you think more women are becoming keyholders?
I think it is becoming more common, but as you said, most don’t advertise it. I think chastity is an excellent way for total control in a fmlr. I have few currently locked up and I think there is TONS out there in the world and more and more women are becoming keyholders.
This is a really awesome blog. Your expertise and insight is remarkable. I find in my real life, that Most people have the hardest time with what comes natural to us. Most people have a hard time being themselves first off. I find this to be sad because it means they lack to the self esteem to think they are good enough just as themselves. The second thing, and as a Gemini this is a hot button. I have to have complete and total honest communication. I give it with my subs so I expect it in return. I think the second thing is the most difficult of all not just for subs but most people. You actually have to practice mindfulness or be adventurous enough to experience new things. I wish everyone practices open and honest communication in all relationships. I think the kink community could definitely teach the “regular world” a thing or two about boundaries and caring for one another. Once again, thanks for the post!
why thank you sexy!
I always love reading this blog. The questions asked are always great!I think chastity seems a bit more common because the whole kink community has become a little more mainstream. There are still things that remain sort of underground, but female led relationships have become more popular.
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I agree with Ms.Lena. I always love your blogs with your questions and answers. You are always so good and spot on with your answers. I look forward to them as much as your devoted callers!
aww thanks bunches