We all know what orgasm denial is and that when you are denied you simply don’t get to orgasm at all. But orgasm delay is the same thing only you know that in the end you will cum.
Orgasm Delay lengths
Now orgasm delay like many kinks comes in many shapes and sizes and is not a one size fits all type of thing. Delaying and orgasms can be as short as a few minutes or a few hours it depends on what you are looking for. Orgasm delay for days may be delay to some guys but full on denial for others again totally up to the person doing it. The difference for me between the two is with orgasm denial you don’t get to touch all the time and edge that cock but with delay I want you to touch and edge I want you to push yourself and hold back delaying your orgasm till it is granted.
Set some goals
What I suggest for anyone looking into orgasm denial or orgasm delay is to set some goals pick a time frame you can handle or discuss this with your Orgasm Control Mistress and the two of you together can come up with a realistic goal for you one that you can handle and achieve. Setting unrealistic goals is not good because it will discourage you from wanting to try orgasm delay/denial again and that is no fun!
Reach your goal and go longer
Now once you have reached your orgasm delay goals and have had your orgasm I suggest when you are ready to do it again set the goal longer. This can be hours longer or days longer again it depends on the person and what they want.
Which would you choose
So if you had a choice between orgasm delay with lots of orgasm edging or orgasm denial with next to no edging which would you choose? Are you ready to beat your record and set some goals or are you scared of what it might be like?
Hmmmm… using your definitions, it depends entirely on the length for me as to whether or not I’d want delay or denial. If it’s a week or less I definitely want delay… I want that edging, that touching, that constant and continual arousal. If it’s longer then that I don’t think it’s safe for me to touch and play that much and definitely prefer denial.
That’s not entirely true, though. I always want to touch and edge and play and be aroused constantly, even with denial. I just know the longer the orgasm gets put off the more likely accidents are each time I do touch. So, what I want is delay all the time no matter how long the wait is, but I know what I need is denial when things go longer.
As far as setting new, longer goals. Ugh. I mean, it can be exciting to go for new, unknown territory but I don’t really want that to be a constant thing. If every time is going for a longer period then that takes a lot of the excitement out of it. When I know that the end of this period just means a longer one next time, it’s not as much fun.
So I don’t know which category that puts me in… I’m not scared of what it might be like but I’m certainly not always ready for new, longer goals.
jp thanks for your comment but i think what you have been doing the last 30 days is delay with a tad bit of denial and I know you said that you want denial the longer it goes on because of accidents I think if you are under good supervision you can have the best of both world no touching when needed and light teasing to keep the excitement going and as far as goals go well I get what you feel but in my experience once a goal has been met it typically leads to ohh more more longer more……………as you are finding out I think a bit diff than the reg denial/delay mistresses out there and you are seeing a whole new worldddddddddddddddd LOL I almost broke out into song hahaah
Hmmm, yes, I believe you’re right, Ms. Constance. This has been a period of delay… haven’t really gone more than a few days in one stretch without touching. And you’re also right on the supervision. Playing by myself is where I get in trouble, but when it’s guided or if I feel compelled to tell you about it afterwards then it’s less likely I’ll go too far.
And about the “ohh more more longer more”… I know I trust you and no matter what you’re going to make me feel amazing but that’s not really how I think. The idea of going more and more and longer and longer just frightens me. 🙁 A deep calm breath and I know I’m in good hands with you, though.
Mmmmmmmmmm yes. As you well know this is me me me!! From as little as a couple hours to a couple weeks of “hard” teasing and almost non-stop edging, I have found true bliss in orgasm delay. I love the excitement and frustration of being so close and yet so far, and how it excites my mistresses. Doing this with you and Kaylee from time to time has been AMAZING; I have found how edging and delaying can be exciting in and of itself. And, of course, when the ultimate release comes so to speak, I don’t oversell when I say those are the best orgasms ever!!! I crave this when we’re NOT doing it! I look forward to lots more. 🙂
yes it is you you you and yes hour or weeks with lots of teasing is fun fun fun and love doing it with you and kaylee as well we always have such a hot time mmmmmmmmmm and I look forward to more as well
Very informative post! I never really thought too much about the difference between delay and denial, I just left it up to you to tell me what you want. You ask a difficult question at the end. I’d have to say both. Delay is good, but so is denial. Both can be very satisfying when doing it for your Mistress. As for goals, your goals are my goals! 🙂
thanks jem jem and I love that you leave all the thinking in regards to delay and denial and heck lots of things to me you know I love the control and heheheh my goals are your goals such a good girl you are!
Honestly it doesn’t matter to me in the end. It’s not even about me, it’s all about the woman who is in charge an what pleases her. Sorry sort of my standard answer.
good boy wessy it is all about me all about I all about number one oh my me my what I think what i like what I seeeeeeeeeeee I like your dick cumming occasionally but mostly its all about meeeee wow I am so singing that LOL
I think that the option with lots of edging is more fun. I can draw a comparison to a mosquito bite. Once you start scratching, it continues to itch, and you continue to scratch. However, many times with mosquito bites if you can hold off on scratching, the itching will subside and you don’t have a desire to scratch. However, you are the best at administering both options!
hey great comparison pet I agree that once you start to edge it builds and builds the desire the need it all builds why thank you pet and you are awesome at following my lead and wishes
I love the idea of setting a goal, Miss Constance! Any activity that a person can set measurable goals and see progress is worth investing in and doing well, and cock control is one of the most pleasurable activities to improve upon! Locking goals in with a Mistress in dedicated sessions is the best way to be challenged and pushed to full potential! Great blog!
goals keep us going and motivated they give us a sense of accomplishment when goals are met and I love to push hehehehe
I choose denail when you wish me not to cum (which is about 99% of the time) and delay when i finally get permission to moan your name!!!!!
well thats when your not begging for just a little edging hehehehehe
orgasm delay with lots edging is fantastic! We have been there before and i have found that i love riding the edge so much that there have been times i questioned myself if i really wanted to cum because it would take time to get to that point again. And then, after a long period of edging the orgasm is simply mind blowing!
I love the way you delay my orgasm with lots of edging mistress, I like to have a happy ending (he he he) but with your permission. makes me feel like you truly control my cock and you give me the pleasure of orgasms after I beg and earn it and be your good pet. The most important point is your guidance and control which I love.