I know this will come to no shock to many of my readers but submissive men come from all walks of life. I have found that I am never surprised when one of my submissive clients tell me what it is they do for a living. Many are in power positions in their lives and careers and come to me for that much needed release of control.
Secret Submissive men
There are many guys who hid the fact they have a submissive side, they have a job that requires them to be dominant and in control and allowing people to know they are truly submissive would jeopardize their authority. This type of submissive man is fun to do a session with because not only are they aching to give up that control and feel the release and relief of not being in charge but they are eager and willing and that to me is just hot!
Submissive men in denial
I know you think I will be talking about orgasm denial here but no not this time. There is a group of men who by all their actions are submissive but if you tell them that or put them in a submissive place that they totally love they simply wont admit it. They say I am not like other submissive guys, that’s not for me, but the reality is they are just in denial and afraid to admit they are truly submissive. Remember you cant tell a woman who has just had you do very submissive things that you are not in any way submissive we know the truth.
Embrace your Submissive side
So this is to all of you who are shy, in the closet or in deep denial about being a submissive man…………stop fighting it! Embrace your submissive side and once you have done that you will find being submissive with the right Mistress so much more rewarding and amazing. Allow yourself that break from your job and your life to embrace your submissive tendencies and stop trying to hide it or fight it. I for one will be happy to help you embrace the submissive inside of you.
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Being submissive can be a great break, as its not something you have to live 24/7. Much like spending a couple of hours at an amusement park to escape the “reality” of everyday life, so is being submissive for an hour or two.
I agree although I am not ever submissive it is nice to have guys who call for that much needed break and to just be submissive to me
Ms Cindy & Ms Gia have turned me into a submissive cream puff sissy. They have me wearing bra/panty set with pumps. Also they have me wearing women’s clothes as well being in makeup/having girlish haircut/feminine arched eyebrows. At Victoria’s Secret and salon I made mess in my panties both times and by doing that they both said that means I’m weak & submissive cream puff sissy.
ohh peter how lovely! I love that they are having you be a cream puff submissive it sounds like so much fun for everyone
IM SUBMISSIVE!!!
yes my sweet pet you certainly are submissive especially to me 🙂
Yes! I also talk to many men from all walks of life and all kinds of professions and many times, they are dying to let their submissive side come out to play! I also love being able to help them let go of that control for a while. It must feel so good to not have to make any decisions or be in control in any way! Embrace it, fellas!
Yes Ms Courtney letting go control for them is like a mini vacation and I am so with ya embrace it guys be submissive and enjoy the break from your every day stressful life
This is a fabulous blog post Ms Constance! I had one Alpha man who described being sexually submissive as an erotic vacation …. he said it’s the male equivalent of a woman taking a spa day at the salon! I loved that analogy … and it’s true isn’t it? One of the great things about submission is that it doesn’t HAVE to be 24/7 … it can be just during erotic play which is why they need to heed your advice and EMBRACE that submissive side!
Dear Mistress Constance,
Yes! This seems to fit me quite well, where I am making the decisions in all areas of my life. The reason, why I am a sexually submissive male, is because this is the area of my life that I need to have women control. I have embraced that sexually submissive side, because I feel that I require in-person mistresses and LDW mistresses to instruct me when I can stroke, when I should cum, or if I even should cum.
Embracing that submissive side has also allowed my to explore my other fetishes in a BDSM lifestyle, which includes foot and leg worship, spankings, whippings, breast worship, face sitting, and CBT. Even my punishments, which I may receive at times, have helped me to correct my behavior. One of my rewards has been the Tantric experiences.
Importantly, by embracing my sexually submissive part of me, I have become much more eager to give pleasure to my mistresses. I have turned over the control of my cock and balls over to them, and I have been richly rewarded. Yes! Those in-person sessions and phone calls are a “vacation” from the other parts of my life.
Thank you so much for this glowing testimonial to turning over control to your Mistress and just embracing you submissive side this is something all guys who are interested understand that although being submissive means giving up control that you are richly rewarded for it!
Why thank you Ms Olivia I so love that analogy did you notice that word starts with anal? Hmmmmm anyways yes it is like a spa day but only much sexier and kinkier hehehehe
Ms Constance ~ What a great post! So many men view being submissive as a weakness. To have total control of everything in your life and usually other’s people’s lives and yet be able to submit takes strength. Many of those men find that their identities are tied to their dominant positions in the lives. To submit is so freeing, especially when one doesn’t get to very often if ever. Thank you for such a great post.
Ahhh yes they do and being a submissive man does not in any way mean he is weak and yes giving up control takes balls for sure. thanks for the excellent comment!
Dear Mistress Constance,
Thank you for this outstandingly excellent response! I seek balance in ALL aspects of my life, which means that I engage in many interests professionally and in my personal life. I enjoy outdoor activities, go to museums, have a social life, and read a lot. When it comes to the larger landscape of my life, sex is really only a small part. I am in charge of those areas of my life.
Having mentioned that, as a sexually submissive man, I want and eagerly desire to have a select few dominant women in my life control my sex life. This is why I visit the LDW sites and call in at times. This is also why I am part of a small social group, which includes a few dominant mistresses ans some submissive males for this outlet. [We get together once or twice a month.]
I feel that it takes a type of strength to allow myself to be sexually dominated, and I have come to accept and enjoy it when I am told to stroke, when not to stroke, to practice edging, and to be denied orgasms. I could weaken and just say that I will cum and orgasm whenever I want, but that is not what I really want, because I, deep down, enjoy pleasing women, and I do get great pleasure from pleasing them. Then I have come to experience the Tantric aspects of being sexually submissive and being denied orgasms for extended periods of time. Then, I like keeping that cum inside my balls.
In summary, I really like it when I have some dominant women take control of my penis and testicles. This practice has made me stronger. Again, I truly thank you for your posts, and I appreciate your great understanding and wisdom!
It’s a treat to be considered one of your submissives. I only hope that I’ve given you half the pleasure you’ve given me over the years.
you have given so much and then some my sweet boy