This is another in my series of Chastity Interviews with some of the Mistresses of ldw….I hope everyone is enjoying reading how each lady feels about locking a cock into chastity and how she handles chastity pets.
1. As a Chastity Mistress, what do you enjoy the most about denying a man or locking them into a chastity device?
The sense of empowerment
The Playful intimacy that comes from the trust
2. What do you expect out of your chastity pets once you have them locked up?
Communication of their feelings, concerns, progression
3. In your opinion, what is the most important thing that a chastity pet gets out of the relationship?
Ultimately enjoyment, satisfaction, and a sense of personal accomplishment; I always liken it to investing in a bank -the more you put in and the longer you save up, the bigger and more potent the payout becomes.
4. What qualities do you look for in a chastity pet?
Commitment, dedication, and if applicable past experience or at the least a sense of their own scope of strengths and weaknesses in potential chastity longevity work. Patience is also vital and the willingness to not start off too extreme until you have them build up to longer periods of time.
5. Do you prefer short lockups or long term?
I enjoy the teasing titillation of both. I find long-term makes both of us more creative in our play and much like sensory deprivation; it increases the intensity of other forms of erotic energy play.
6. Do you plan a lockdown with a definite term in mind or do you prefer to “play it by ear”?
Depends on the sub/pet. Some thrive with schedules and others do better with a more improvisational set-up.
7. This is hot and I want to be locked up, but I’ve never tried chastity before. What do I need to do to make it happen?
Sort term goals; practice wearing a device for very short periods of time prior to planning any chastity schedule. Make sure you gauge as to how your body and mind reacts to the newfound restrictions. Also make sure there is proper fit and no irritations to the skin or circulatory system (beyond of course the inability to get aroused comfortably)
8. What happens if I change my mind once you’ve locked me up?
You are ultimately free to make that choice but the more effort and time you put into this work, the more your mistress will pour into this exploratory journey and future erotic endeavors. There is much to be learned and gained when something is temporarilyabstained from.
9. What changes can I expect in my life if you lock me into a chastity device?
Other than the obvious sexual ones, the many reactions vary. Some find short-term frustration initially but long-term productivity, creativity and bodily-control even when released outside of the device.
10. How would you deal with a pet who has removed the chastity device without your permission?
This varies. It depends on the pet and the set-up we discussed ahead of time.
11. Of all the pets that you’ve put into chastity devices, approximately what percentage will slip or otherwise not complete their term?
Approximately 25% but I think that’s mostly because they had at least subconsciously and maybe even advertently wanted to for punishment/attention aspects instead of actual chastity in and of itself. They seem easy to spot at the start if they are not really into anything beyond the taste of it.
12. Since you don’t hold the actual keys to the device, how can you be sure that your chastity pet isn’t cheating?
The real shackles here are metaphorical, so that’s what’s important for me to consider and remember (at least IMHO). It’s like we provide the “key and lock”, but they choose to lock themselves up under our guidance. The real power is getting to know the pet so well that they want to please you of their own volition and even learning their subtle signs that can be transparent even if their words may try to deceive.
13. How would you answer a prospective chastity pet who says, “I want to be locked up and never cum again”?
I’d personal take it with a grain of salt but I wouldn’t tell the pet that. I’d see how long they could play it up and last though for sure.
14. Being locked in chastity is difficult. How do you as the Mistress provide guidance and maintain your pets to keep them on the path?
Meditation, breathing work, diversion and distraction tactics, encouragement, gentle goading& challenges (and praise when the challenges are met).
15. What are some of the day to day difficulties that I’ll experience if you lock me up?
Slight discomfort
Sexual frustration at least at first
Restlessness
16. In your experience, what signs do you look for that would indicate that a locked pet might be having trouble?
They call inconsistency or way more often than normal and seem extra needy/clingy (if that’s out of character typically) and start asking a litany of questions that we’ve already covered at the beginning.
Wonderful interview with another great “keyholder” ! I am so thrilled this is catching on 🙂
thanks cuckie 🙂
Mistress Fiona reminds me a lot of the young woman who got me into chatsity play during college. She was a keyholder for several other guys before me. I saw a couple spare cock cages laying around at her apartment and asked about them. She was pretty frank about it; she just said what she did, “I keep guys locked in these cages to tease them and drive ’em nuts.” It planted the idea in my head and I was hooked before I even knew it.
Anyway, she had a practice of sitting the boy down before taking him on as a chastity pet. She would go over things like what to expect and establish soft and firm limits. Then, after all the t’s were crossed, she’d take his hands in hers, look him squarely in the eyes and say something like, “I’m about to take away your penis. Do you understand what this means and are you prepared to proceeed?” If he hesitated at all she wouldn’t take him on. If he said yes then it was down the rabbit hole and there was no looking back. I was in that category.
Her style seemed a lot like Mistress Fiona’s and she even looks a little like her. Reading this makes me yearn for those exciting years. Thanks for posting!
wow thank you for sharing this with all of us I am glad Ms Fiona was able to bring back such hot things!
Again hometown mistress another great interview
Ms Fiona insight was spot on
Thank you ladies for taking the time to share
hometownhomie thank you for reading and I like her point of view as well 🙂
I am definitely enjoying all of these. I am impressed with the devotion, interest, intelligence and thought each Mistress brings to their chastity experiences, even when it’s a style I don’t personally like. I did like Fiona’s style. She seems very easygoing about it, which I like, but great understanding of the intensity, difficulty, and learning that goes with it. Seems like she would really be there to make it good experience and I love the parts about meditating, breathing, learning, and a whole body and mind experience she communicates. Thanks again for another fascinating post.
glad you enjoyed it so much and her style so much that is awesome and just what these chastity interviews are all about :0
I like the idea of starting out short term for those of us who haven’t been in chastity before. Even though I long to be locked up for You, I think short term to get used to it would be my preference. Your expert guidance and control is what I need and crave, we both know that, and with each wonderful interview I grow more and more excited. This interview was great and gave me some things to think about. I can’t wait til the next one!
this is what I do for most newbies to chastity and although I know you would stay locked for a year if I asked you I know it is not what you need or what is good for you and besides you don’t have to be locked to be denied hehehehehe
Ms Fiona is absolutely spot on with her recommendation to practice wearing the cage for shorter periods of time before starting any extended lockdowns, just to be sure that the it won’t give you any physical problems. Especially if the cage is not custom fit for you. I’ve seen posts where some Keyholders will start an extended program on a chastity pet the moment that the cage arrives in the mail, and before even checking for any fit issues. There’s nothing more miserable than being locked into a chastity cage when you’re in constant pain from it. Another great interview, Ms Constance and Ms Fiona!
I agree I loved her input and her out look on chastity
I don’t pull my pin or pillow hump any more maybe i went way to far as a CD and starting down the transformation highway on the way on the transformation highway i discovered sissy life and Forced Feminization i was intrigued by it all.I don’t approve of the male dominance of the sissy .Seeing as to the high percentage of rapes and battered women so i stsrted to seek Female Dominance of my feminine lifestyle torn between a MILF CD OR a closet sissy or a sissy online looking for a Mistress. My outward apperence suggests a MILF CD in hose Which is most likely what the male side desires to have since i am unable to have it i try to be it.